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Hi, this is completely new to me. I have recently separated from my wife. I hope that we can work through our issues but I am having real difficulties keeping my cool with how my in laws and my wife are acting. I lost my rag during an argument and threw water over my wife and called her some awful names. I am not proud of my behaviour and I am really sorry. I have been sleeping at my mothers for three nights. I went to see kids last night and to talk with my wife. During the conversation she told me she is taking the kids to Spain on 14th june and has approved it with the school. I am not at all happy as it wasn't discussed with me first and was a decision made by my mother in law and my wife. I need some advice please!
You have PR so in theory you should have some say in the matter. However, there may be an issue that technically, you are still married so I'm not sure whether the courts would issue a Prohibited Steps Order at this stage, it might be worth getting a consultation with a solicitor about this.
However, I would seriously consider the consequences of preventing them from going on holiday at this stage - your children are almost certainly looking forward to this holiday by now, and if you prevent it, your ex is certainly going to let them know that it was you that prevented it. In addition, she is likely to cut down the level of contact you have at the moment. It might be worthwhile taking this as an opportunity to negotiate with your ex that in future she discusses it with you before booking it, and also allowing you also to take them on holiday.
Might be worth suggesting the use of a parenting plan
As you were married you have PR so she does need your permission to take your child abroad. However I agree with actd, would you really want to spoil it for your children? I can understand why you would be feeling aggrieved but you are angry with the way the mother and grandmother are behaving, but that won't change by punishing the children and it would lead to further deterioration in you relationship with your ex, which won't help the kids either.
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