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I'm looking for abit of help on what to do or where to go I've been spilt up with my ex for over five years and still have problems with getting holiday time I've been asking since Jan for her to give me a two weeks slot in August she final come back a few weeks ago that I can have him for one week and it's the first week after I already told her I can't have that week due to plans already made she tells me that is the time I can have him and that it
I'm really stuck I don't want to go away without him because I have a new partner and we have two other kids but I've told her if she will not change that dates I will have to go away without him and that will be because of her
Any help would be great
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Do you have a court order in place that lays out contact and holidays? If not then other than agreeing with the mother, the only other option you have is to make a court application. If the holiday was in the next couple of weeks you could do that on an urgent Specific Issue Order application but as it's still quite a few weeks away, you might have to attempt mediation first as it's compulsory before making an application. That way you could also apply for a Child Arrangement Order at the same time so that your contact going forward is laid out in a legally binding way. Court is a last resort and it's possible mediation might work for you so it's got to be worth a try.
You could try writing to her and saying that you have been asking since January for two weeks holiday time with specific dates so that your son can join his siblings on holiday. Point out that it is your sons right to have quality time with you and his two siblings and her refusal isnt in his best interests. You could say that you have taken advice and that you would be prepared to take court action to resolve this if necessary by applying for a Specific Issue Order and the likelihood is that this would be granted. Offer mediation but make her aware that agreement has to be reached and give her a week to respond in writing or you will take it further.....in a non threatening way of course.
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