[Solved] Hi everyone

Hi Craig

Sorry to hear this - it's pretty devastating when it's unexpected and your whole world gets turned upside down - there are a lot of dads on here who will know exactly what you are going through.

It might be worth having a look at this link, to give you some pointers, but keep posting back on here.

http://dadinfo.splittingup-putkidsfirst.org.uk/home

Hi Craig,

Sorry to hear what your going through, as actd has said going through this will wipe you out, staying strong for the children is good as they are very important through all of this, however you do need an outlet for your emotions.

Have you got anyone you can talk too?

Even talking here can help.

I have been where you are and it is very difficult to think striaght and get through things.

If you need to off load but don't want it public then feel free to private message me.

GTTS

Hi Craig

...I'd be more concerned if you weren't reacting to the awful situation you are in at the moment. As has been said, concentrate on the children, they need you more than ever now.

It always helps to talk, either to family or close friends, and of course right here too.

Try and keep busy, especially if you are finding it difficult to sleep...get the kids out of the house and go and do stuff together. Fresh air and exercise will help.

If the children need to talk about it just be honest with them, in a kind way...the last thing they want or need is for you both to be saying bad things about each other. They will need lots of reassurance and love.

The way you are feeling right now will get easier, just give yourself time.

Hi Craig,

How are you doing ?

Gooner

hi,
not doing so good at the moment.
Very down and my wife is just about to secure a rented property so will leave shortly with the children.
All very emotional

Thank you for asking 🙂

Craig

Thank you very much 🙂

Hi Craig

It will get better... Right now with the situation coming to a head you will feel at your lowest. Once it's over you will most likely go through a period of transition, getting used to the changes. Try to find things to occupy yourself and get the support of your family and friends....as I said it will get better, just be kind to yourself.

Hey Bud,

Just read your post, I know everyone has already said theyre 'sorry' for your situation. Of course I am too, but a simple 'sorry' does not change what is inevitably about to happen.. The best advice I can give you myself is to get things in order NOW. Lawyers, Court, Access, the works.. The longer you wait, the more you will feel powerless. The more you will feel disconnected from your children. When I first made my application to court, it took 6 months to get there, of which my daughters mum did not allow me to see my daughter once until the court made it possible. 6 months I went without my baby daughter, 6 months of almost losing my mind. The best thing you can do right now is assure your children how much you love them no matter what. And get your lawyer and court order in place.

There really is no time to be complacent, no matter how down youre feeling at the moment.

Hi Craig,

Are you and your wife talking, have you put together any arrangements for contact with the kids once she has moved? I can understand how difficult this must be for you at the moment but if you can both come to an understanding for the children's sake that will help you get back on track in the long run.

Contrary to some people's thinking, most marriages that end are not fraught with disagreement and anger that ends up in court battles.... it's only a very small percentage that end up in the courts. It's good to be aware of what options are open to you but I really don't think you should concern yourself with creating animosity at this stage in your situation.

Look for support during this time from your family and friends and try to keep busy....I know it's easy to say but you must stay strong for your children's sake and that means eating regularly and getting enough sleep.

All the best Craig

Hi Craig,

Sorry to hear about your situation I really feel for you.

As others have said I hope you manage to get something sorted out with regards to the kids etc soon. Stay strong for them and make them aware you are there for them and I'm sure you will get through this ok!

James

Hey guys,
My wife is looking to move out with the kids to rent a house on the basis that I give her a settlement figure which would be 50% of the equity if we were to sell the family home.
She is having problems finding somewhere suitable to move to - could she turn around and demand that she wants to stay and I have to move out?