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My husband 68 y/o and I decided to move closer to families 6 months ago. I have an aunt 82 y/o and divorced. The last 3 months I noticed my husband is very happy whenever he is with my aunt. He jokes a lot and they laugh together. Every time we visit he kisses my aunt on the cheek and rub her back gently which he does not do to the other aunts. When we have family gatherings he always walk my aunt to her car and carry her stuffs and come back 15 minutes longer than usual. The last 2 months he has been dressing up very smartly to church that one cousins said “he is blooming”. He has never been alone with my aunt except for 2 occasions when he went to her house alone while I was at work to pick up something and they had dinner together. It is always normal for my aunt to prepare lunch or dinner whenever we visit her. One Sunday we were about to go home and I thought he was behind me but when I turned around I saw him blow a kiss to my aunt across the aisle as she was approaching him. I saw my husband was so full of emotion when he blew that kiss with his eyes sparkling and his chest moving forward as he blew the kiss oblivious of the people around him. Then when he noticed me watching him he walked towards me and I said “let’s go”. He said “I want to wait for auntie” but I said “let’s go” and he followed. On our way home I told him to tone it down a bit for he appears to be flirting. He was so mad at me and we had a screaming match. He said he was just so happy to see auntie so he blew her a kiss and that I am being malicious. Last time he saw my aunt was 4 days ago when he went to her house alone to fix her cellphone. I have never seen my husband blew a kiss to anyone in our 30+years of marriage. Not even to his mother or to me his wife- it is just not his character. Please I would appreciate very much if you can help what do you think is going on? Is it ok for him to be blowing kisses in the church to my aunt? Is he attracted to her?
Am sorry, I came to this forum to seek help. I was thinking you being the opposite [censored] may have a better perspective of my husband’s actions.
please share your thoughts. Thank you so much
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