[Solved] Good News on the horrizon

Tricky one really. First, legally, if there is a contact order, then she can't reasonably prevent access. If there isn't a contact order, then she can do so as the parent with day to day care, but a court wont' be impressed once you go for a contact order.

I'm not sure what I'd do in your position - if your son is only 5 months old, then realistically, it's going to be almost a year before he is speaking fluently enough to spill the beans if he meets your new partner, so you could go for it and be prepared for the consequences in a year, by which time your ex may well have met someone new and be a little more relaxed about it (but don't count on it). The alternative is to try mediation to get some flexibility, but that immediately alerts your ex to the fact that you've met someone.

I can't really advise either way - but if you are on facebook, don't post on there about the relationship as that's asking for trouble.

Oh, and good that you have met someone, hope it's all going well for you 🙂

Luckily for me Facebook is a huge no no. It's the root of all evil.............

I have not yet got a contact order as things are "OK" as far as OK can be. Obviously I want more access so my son can have more time with me and this side of his family.

If my new partner meets him within the next six months, he'd not remember and therefore in my eyes would not impact him (yet) in any way.

My ex. hmmmm tells me she has a partner, but, well 95% of things she says to me are designed to somehow wind me up and the fact that they don't means she get wound up more. She has said once she's met someone but this is very doubtful.

I think what I'm going to do is play this one by ear. Lucky for me I have the absolute and full support of the person I've met so that's great. Anyways all, thanks for everything thus far.

Seriously Congrats mate - hope it goes well.

Enjoy what's happening at the moment - don't worry about what could happen in the future.

I dread telling my ex. I know she will need to know based on the fact that our son will/might meet her. Now, at this point I'm at an advantage whereby my son is 5 months old and knows very little in general.

Is there any reason to tell her yet? I wouldn't - not point in complicating issues any futher. Deal with the rest later - hopefully much later, who knows your ex may meet the man of her dreams and it won't be an issue anymore.

Have fun, enjoy your new relationship and keep talking to us.

Gooner

great news - well done.

hope it works out for you.

Yeah, Things are actually going well..... so far 🙂 Well happy 🙂

I agree with Gooner! It's a need to know basis and she doesn't need to know! 😉

Really hope it goes the distance 🙂

Well, it's been a few weeks now and my new relationship is really blossoming, I'm overwhelmed by the support she is showing and giving towards the issues I'm having with my sons mother. I would never ask her to get involved but she actively wants to help me. She wants to know more about FNF, dad.info. she was surprised and humbled by how many fathers want heir kids. Her kids father abandoned her two boys at a young age and like most mothers this happens to thinks ( thought) that this is what men do..... Until she met me and got involved with what does happen when a dad wants their child.

She's awesome. I'm actually really happy at the moment.

When he chips are down and I can't see my son, I know I have her ( along with others) to look forwards to and that makes a massive difference to coping with the sheer heartache of the muck that goes on with the ex.

To date, I'm well happy........

That's great, well pleased for you!

It's a case of the few making it worse for the many. I'd say bunny boilers are a minority group but boy do they make their presence felt!

lifeneedsharmony

Congratulations that things are going well for you. I bet the Ex won't be happy that you're enjoying life again!! 🙂

Nannyjane

Yep! them Bunny Boilers really are a nightmare. But at the end of the day they are the losers. And no doubt will end up alone as nobody in their right mind will put up with their mental behaviour

The only downside is that the children are caught up in the mess they create

Good news LNH - glad it's going well. Sounds like you are living your forum ID 🙂

Yeah :-)..... For now keeping the ex well away for a bit, otherwise the bunny boiling would defo start and I don't need that.

It will happen, but, well, if I can delay for as long as possible then it makes my life that were bit easier.!