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Hi this is my first post on here. My girlfriend of two years is now 6 months pregnant. Over the last 18 months she has become abusive. To date she has punched me, slapped me, and most recently stabbed me in the ear (which I did not press charges for, as i did not want to upset my unborn son). The abuse is also emotional and finacial. Her own son has caused much trouble in the relationship to the extent he had to be removed from the house as he was violent and thretend to kick the baby out of his own mom, through resentment. I am now in a hostel having some contact with my partner(?). On moving in with her 2 years i have been the main carrer for her youngest child, as given half the chance she would sleep all day. This id due to medication for depresion and anxierty. I have concearns about her cannabis use and behaviour when my son is born. Her eldest lad maybe returning to the familly home and i fear for her safety. She has asked me to leave until baby is born. I am playing along with her request to keep the peace, but honestly do not want to continue the relationship, but when baby is born I feel it necceserry to remove myself and my son from her. This is due to the fact that i cant live with the abuse and my stepson hates me and anything to do with me. He has also threatened to hurt my son and me. Please can some on HELP me with what I should do
Speak to the Children's Legal Centre (link at the top of the forum) as a matter of urgency. I would guess (but I'm not sure on this) that Social Services would have to have good grounds for removing the baby from the mother at birth, so they have to have be sure that there is a danger to the baby to justify this.
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