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Hi again just found out apprantley carly my ex has now got a 2 bed cancil house and my eldest who is 3 and 5 month old is in new school and just seen pics from friends of my girls and theyhave changed so much and I just feel like I'm nothing every time I try and go forwards its seems I'm just gonig backwards up setting day to day and I just want to day to be over I'm in a bed sit and been told by friends I can't even go for over night stays because of that fact and I'm so gutted at this time its only been 6 weeks or so but its like life is moving on with her and the kids I'm not even apart of it and not a good day today.
Hi Peter
It's going to take time, but you need to take it one day at a time. You need to look after yourself as a first priority so that you can be the best dad to your children, and also to be able to move on with your life. Get yourself to the gym if you can, or even just go running on a regular basis.
Mate I feel for you man I've felt like that every day for the past 6 months solid, missing my girls is on my mind 24/7 it's almost unbearable I've literally been taking every hour as it comes as every day is tough enough.
The first thing I think when I wake is my Girls and the last thing at night it is a living nightmare I wish I would wake up from, my Daughter is 8 months old and I've only seen her for 5 weeks out of her life my step daughter is 5 and I've been there everyday up until 6 months ago.
Its hard but you have to put yourself first whilst your not seeing them, they are going to need a strong daddy and in the general scheme of things you've got them for life so try not to worry as you will make yourself worse.
Try as said below go to the gym. take up a hobby, plough yourself into work if you have to, try and eat well sleep well and take the best care of yourself as you can.
I've been getting myself out and about again going on dates and stuff but I keep harping on about my girls and my date runs for the hills, try and not let it consume you mate, read other stories on this site and keep posting man, you are not alone my friend 🙂
Slim
I can only reiterate what's already been said, get to the gym, go running, play some sport but do something physical to get out and about. It makes you feel so much better..... apart from that look after yourself, keep yourself focussed and take each day as it comes. Remember who you are doing it for....