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Hi, me and my fiancee had a little girl 3 months ago and ever since then she seems to be incredibly moody all the time. She blames me constantly for what has happened to her body since giving birth and will go days without talking to me and says she wished she never had a baby, if I try to talk to her to see what's wrong she just closes up and ignores me. I was just wondering if anyone else has had this problem.
Not something I've had experience of, but plenty have. I would mention it to the midwife if she's still visiting, otherwise see if your fiancee will see her GP, it sounds like it could be post natal depression, which I think is quite common. Hopefully others on here with more experience of this will be along to give more advice.
Unfortunately its quite normal for women to feel like this due to the massive shift in hormones post birth. Plus many find birth traumatic. PND can be mild but can get worse very quickly and I would say your partner most definatly has PND. However, I wouldn't announce as much to her! I would contact your GP, Health visitor or the midwife team that visited with her as PND can be a major issue but can be treated easily.
What has happened with her body, I am afraid will take her time to get used to, if she ever does. But, by being gentle, loving and supportive you can help. She may also be suffering from sleep deprivation, most new parents do at some point so perhaps try and ensure she has some time to herself. Maybe run her a nice bath, candles, bubbles, a nice book and you take care of the baby while she has some *me* time.
The other really important thing is to try and spend some time together as a couple. it is far to easy to get caught up in the new baby and forget each other and that's when relationships flounder horrendously.
I hope this helps.
Sounds like post-natal depression to me as well, judging by how my wife is going through it right now. The NHS offers various wellbeing services that were useful to her, you may want to see what's available where you live. Also health visitors and midwives can usually direct you towards some help.
I would echo what the others have said. There's just been another post on this topic, I posted links to
http://www.pandasfoundation.org.uk/
they are both worth contacting for information and support for you and your fiancee.
I suffered after the birth of my first child and it certainly sounds like this is what your fiancee is suffering with. As stated by other members, I wouldn't announce this fact to her but possibly seek some advice on how to approach the subject and how to seek help. Your fiancee is lucky you're supportive and want to help.
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