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Hello,
I'm looking for some advice on how I deal with a situation that happened recently.
My girlfriend went on a day out with her female friend (who's single), they went to watch a show, and they car shared (friends car). After the show which finished around 17:00 she was meant to come home, but instead I got a text message saying that she is going for something to eat because they didn't eat before the show, so will be home later. I wasn't bothered by her staying out late and I messaged says thanks for letting me know and have a nice time.
During the day my girlfriends friend was messaging a guy, someone who she went to University with and he is now married. This ended up escalating to the point that the married man suggested that they all meet up for something to eat. When they arrived at the restaurant the guy got out of his car with another guy and they all ended up having a meal together. My girlfriend didn't message me much after the last text message and came home after midnight very sheepish. I asked if she had a nice time and she told me what happened.
She said that she wasn't aware that another guy was going to turn up, and she didn't really want to go and meet up with this other guy either, but felt that she had to because her mate wanted to see him.
I feel very undecided, because I have always trusted my partner and if she is telling the truth then her friend has put her in a situation. However my girlfriend didn't get home until gone midnight, so clearly she felt it was ok to continue the evening (basically on a surprise double date). My girlfriend says that nothing happened at all and that she felt uncomfortable all evening, but wanted to tell me what happened when she got home.
I feel that my trust with her has broken, however I also feel that if the story is true that its not her fault, but it feel like she has spent the evening with another man. I have told her how I feel, its basically a form of micro-cheating and I feel let down and disrespected, especially by her friend for putting my girlfriend into a situation like that. I know for certain that if the roles was reversed and it was me who went out and ended up having a diner date with some random woman I would be kicked to the curb.
I'm just looking for advice on this, am I overreacting to a simple mistake or do I have a point, also what should I do going forward?
Hi,
I think you may be over-reacting. Would suggest you talk to your partner about it all and let her know your feelings.
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