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[Solved] Ex wont let my son sleep over

 
(@Mans-not-hot)
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Hi all im knew to this so please bare with me.

Me and my partner split up not long after he was born. (9 years ago) After fighting in court for 3 years I was granted access.

I've only ever have 2 partners since we split 9 years ago.

The first I was with for 4 years. My son met my new partner after 6 months (he would of been 4) she was apart of his life for 3.5 years.

The secound my current partner. My son only met her a few weeks ago. But we have been together over a year. We are wanting to move into our own place together. I have a 1 bedroom flat. And she has a 2 bed house. She also has a daughter so we will need a 3 bed house. I've been living at my partners for 7 months only returning to my flat when I have my son. (Every Friday and every over Friday - Sunday)

I have spoken to my ex about my son living at my partners house with me. (He would go in her daughters room. We would Make it more boyish for him and she would come and sleep in our room) but the ex has categorically said no! He is not staying there until me and my partner have been living together for 6 months. (She is aware I have been living there for 7 months only returning to my flat when I have my son) but she is happy for my son to spend all weekend with my partner and daughter but will not allow him to sleep over. To me this makes no sense!

Surely she cannot dictate to me when where my son sleeps as long as he has a room over his head and he safe.

Any help would be much appreciated.

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Topic starter Posted : 25/10/2018 3:15 am
(@Mans-not-hot)
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Sorry forgot to add. I'm give up my flat in the new year. So we can save up to get a 3 bed house. And my ex has the address of my partner house. She has also said if she find out my son has slept there she will stop him from sleeping over. And I will have to drop his home on the evening I have him and lock him up again in the morning

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Topic starter Posted : 25/10/2018 10:06 am
(@got-the-tshirt)
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Hi There,

In order to move forward you would need to attend mediation with your ex to try and reach an agreement, if you are unable to agree then you could apply to court for assistance.

There would be no reason that a judge wouldn't rule against you in your son staying at your partners especially as your ex has no issue in your son staying with you at your flat, or spending time with your partner throughout the day.

GTTS

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Posted : 25/10/2018 3:36 pm
 Mojo
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Whilst I understand why GTTS has advised the mediation/court route, it would take at least 6 months to carry that out, and as six months is the condition being placed on you, I question whether all the added strain is worth it in the long run.

In this instance I think agreeing to her demands is probably the easier option... you wouldnt have to go through the strain of court and the possibility that she might stop or severely limit contact during the court case.

All the best

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Posted : 26/10/2018 4:14 pm
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