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Probably just me getting overly worried...but I'm planning to take my children to Europe in August (for half the summer holiday) and they'll be staying with me and my new girlfriend.
As yet, my ex doesn't know my girlfriend's name or my/our address etc and I really would prefer that!
Not sure what I'm asking here, but is there any need to be concerned? It doesn't help my ex is 43 (I'm 41) and my girlfriend is 29.
Hello Blindsided,
I am speaking of my personal view as a grandmother. When my Son found a partner, a very pleasant, level headed and responsible young woman, I noticed immediately upon meeting her that both he and she had different parenting skills. Initially I voiced this to my Son who reassured me regarding the concerns I had. In fact the difference in parenting skills, I now see as being complimentary to one another. I came to this conclusion through the information I was given and the observations I made which was reassuring for me.
Your post is brief but to me poses a number of questions.
You question, quote, "is there any need to be concerned?" By asking this you appear to me to be concerned regarding something, whatever that is.
Why wouldn't you want your Ex to know where you live and presumably where yours and her children visit or stay overnight? Why such secrecy?
You are taking your children abroad for half of the summer holidays with your new girlfriend. Isn't it natural your Ex would want to know who they are going with?
How old are your children?
Does your new girlfriend like and get on well with your children? Is she use to looking after children? Do they like her?
If you are going abroad there will only be the two of you to attend to the children.
I think under the circumstances it is understandable your Ex wants to know more about who will be looking after them.
The questions I put to you are rhetorical, consequently there is no need for you to answer them on here.
I illustrated my personal concerns as a grandmother in my first paragraph. I put to you for consideration that being open and imparting relevant information can allay concerns another person may have about a particular situation.
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