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I need help, My friend Mr D has gotten in a new relationship with a female we work with. His ex is very clever she dropped baby off at D's house on Saturday and is refusing to pick up baby, knowing full well he cannot see his new gf over weekends and also is putting him at risk of losing sing his job because he can't go to work as she won't tell him where she is D has messaged and rang and only gets sly comments back. He wants things to be amicable between them and has respected her wishes to not have new partner around baby. Is there anything my friend can do to make her pick up the child or anything he can do to get potential rights for the child Poor baby 🙁
I am helping out a friend...
My friend split up with his partner before child was born. (6month old)
Last week he told his ex that he has now got a new girlfriend and has gone ballistic. Going irate about new gf meeting baby this hasnt even been mentioned to the mother anyway!!!
So basically the mother has decided that to drive the new gf away and because the father is respecting her wishes she is refusing to pick up her son from my friends house. Meaning but my friend doesn't get to see his new girlfriend because new girlfriend isn't allowed near the child.
6 month old baby won't stay the father's house on saturday and my mother was supposed to pick up on sunday at 7:45 p.m. it's no Monday night and the mother is still not here
Because my friend to girlfriend works in the same place she also thinks that by not picking up the baby he can't go to work and see girl friend which is also put in this job at risk
Is there anything that can be done obviously that she will come and pick the baby up and also he is at risk of losing his job anybody else been in this situation before and can make it for any information on how we can get this sorted
Thanks
Hi there
Unless there is a court order stating that the baby mustn't be around the gf then the father can introduce anyone, including his new gf, to the baby.
If the mother had disappeared and has not picked the baby up at the arranged time, the father can report this to Social Services or the police, but until the mother comes forward it will be the fathers responsibility to care for the baby.
I'm sure if he told work what has happened, they should be understanding. If not then Social Services may be able to help with arranging child care so that he can go to work, or he could place the baby in a nursery whilst he works, although this is quite expensive. Is there no other family members that could help look after the baby whilst he works?
I've moved both posts you made into the same thread to avoid confusion. 🙂
I would seriously consider that he tells his ex that if it happens again, he will be applying for an emergency order for residence and preventing her from picking the baby up - it's a drastic step but he can't continue with this sort of uncertainly, and his employers might also be more understanding if they realise he is going through this process. If he gets residence (now a Child Arrangement Order) then he's entitled to claim child benefit and also maintenance from his ex.
However, the possibility that her actions might backfire on her might just mean his ex starts to be a little more reasonable.
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