[Solved] Ex girlfriend left with my son

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear about losing your children in that way and now another has been taken away. Have you been in touch with the Social Worker that had helped you both after your baby was born?

Do you know where your ex has moved to?

Usually the first step is to attempt mediation, but as she is making allegations of domestic violence, this might not be appropriate in your case. who has she made these allegations to? Are Social Service still involved?

If you applied to the family court for a Child Arrangements Order, it would need to be submitted at a court nearest to where your ex is living. This will be difficult for you because of the distance, but that's the way the courts work I'm afraid.

Have a look at the stickys at the top of the legal eagle section, there's lots of info about the court process which you may find useful.

It might also be a good idea if you were to attend a Families Meed Fathers meeting in your area, here's a link to their website where you'll find details about of meetings near where you liv.

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

All the best

I have been in touch with social worker and told her about the plans of her not coming back she just said she is on the case i have bot heard from social worker for a week now i did ring friday to find out what she is doing to ensure the welfare of my son as i dont no exactly were about she has gone with him so hopefully she is in contact tomorrow i have also tryed to get in touch with a mckenzi friend to see were i stand and what i can do my ex did measage me last week to say she misses me and wants to come home but then her attitude has changed this week and has said she aint coming back again i been dealing with this for the last month now i dont want to be dealing with all this right now i just miss coming home from work to my son and not alot of aupport around me as my family live 300miles away also

However i do speak to my family on the phone about it but really dont no what to do could i file for a residency order as ss are aware of her depression and anxiety would i have to go to were she has my child is to file this ?? This is the last thing i want to be doing but i really need to ensure the welfare of my son after what she got involved in last time she left me and losing my daughter because of it all i cant go through that again

I totally understand your anxiety, I think at the moment your best bet is to work with the Social Worker, have you shared your thoughts with her? If they feel that the child is at risk now, I'm sure they will discuss this with you, at which point you can ask that they support you in getting residency of your child.

Talk to the Social worker about your fears and perhaps open up to her about your ex's behaviour before she left. It's important you remain strong and child focused, you want them to feel that placing the child with youould be what is in the child's best interests.

See what the Social worker can find out and what their position is, once you are better informed you can decide on the best course of action.

Thank you i will try speak to social worker tomorrow to find out more im really not the kind of person to be fighting against my ex though but i think your defintley right i should of opened up before when it was all happening now i feel that i failed my son by not opening up before and letting it all happen i was just scared i would lose my family by opening up to them now it seems like i lost them anyway

Pleas don't feel that you've failed your son, it's easy to understand why you felt you couldn't tell them, fear of losing your child is strong motivation, my advice is just to be open with them going forward.

Please do keep us updated on how you get on, if you need to make an application to court in the future, we will do our best to advise and support you with it.

Best of luck