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My wife and I have been married for 8 years and have 2 lovely daughters together in addition to her own son who is 16. The lad has always been a challenge particularly his laziness, cheek and in particular his stealing. His mother always defends him and I am always made to look the bad guy
I recently set up a video camera which caught him stealing money out of our bedroom. I confiscated his tv and said he would not get it back till I had an apology and the money back that he stole. He has refused to do both and his mother just wants to stay out of the problem.
I am of the belief that his his mother avoiding the issue is a way of condoning such behaviour, she has not said one critical thing to him. Also, my marriage hasn't been great since my youngest came along and I am considering leaving, this issue with her lad just makes me think I should.
Any thoughts/advice would be appreciated
I have not been in a situation like that but knowing me I would demand an apology and if report him to the cops! If the mother doesnt want to get involved then explain you have no other option. I believe ill be very strict when my daughter is older but know it will cause major problems! He clearly doesnt respect you or the family. .start clamping down before it gets even worse
Has your relationship with your stepson changed for some reason? I mean you have been with him since he was 8 what was your relationship like before? What is his behaviour like with your own two children?
I know how difficult it is with a step-parent, I lived with someone who became a step to my kids, they did get on well and then changed, but that was my ex's fault, my hubby has a great relationship with him and says I did a grand job with him, which makes me feel relieved compared to what the ex said! LOL!!
Does the stepson see his real father? Have you thought whether he might be on drugs? Does he need some attention? Have you looked at reasons like this for his behaviour?
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