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What are the everyday things you do for your partner that helps contribute to a happy and healthy relationship?
Hi,
My wife and I both changed jobs recently, and have reversed the time we leave the house, I used to get up at 6am and leave the house by 6:45, and then not return home till around 6:30pm that has now changed and I leave the house at 8:30am and my wife leaves anywhere between 6:45am to leaving with me depending on which shift she is on.
I always get up with her and make her breakfast and coffee, I used to hate getting up and going off to work without seeing anyone so don't want her to have to do that, I also drop my step son off at school on my way to work and get him ready for school, which takes a lot of the worry away from my wife's day as she knows he is sorted in the mornings.
none of this is major but I don't think it has to be it's the small things that make the difference.
GTTS
I wash his socks :boohoo: ..... 😆
Now, Now NJ,
I'm sure you do more than that, Lol
GTTS
If you saw his socks you'd understand! They're a health hazard! Lol
...I shouldn't jest, this is actually a good post, it makes us think about the things that count in our day to day lives...and as you say GTTS, it's usually the small things that make the difference.
We've been together 23 years and I know how he's feeling without him having to tell me.... I instinctively know. I make him laugh and I cook his favourite things when he's had a bad day. I take an interest in what interests him, so that we can sit and talk about it together ...I love his animation when he's talking about things that he loves.
I know just how he likes his coffee in the morning. I watch where he throws things down, like keys or his wallet, knowing that later he will be asking me if I've seen them....I gave up asking him to put them in a safe place long ago!
...I love his animation when he's talking about things that he loves.
It must take him ages to tell you about what he likes if he's drawing cartoons all the time :p :p :p :p :p
heheh
😆 😆 😆 ...I was trying to be serious!
**hangs head in shame**
Sorry, so anyone else going to spill the beans on what they do to make their relationship happy and healthy?
GTTS
That's a tricky one, I think generally often just providing support in the background when needed, or being flexible with the dog walking or having something ready for her to eat as she walks in the door if she's had a long day. Nothing regular perhaps, and maybe not always when I should, but sometimes just the little things out of the ordinary.
One thing that I don't always get right - I am pretty good at listening when she's talking to me, but not good at showing when I'm listening, so even though I've taken in every word, she thinks I haven't heard anything 🙁
That's a tricky one, I think generally often just providing support in the background when needed, or being flexible with the dog walking or having something ready for her to eat as she walks in the door if she's had a long day. Nothing regular perhaps, and maybe not always when I should, but sometimes just the little things out of the ordinary.
One thing that I don't always get right - I am pretty good at listening when she's talking to me, but not good at showing when I'm listening, so even though I've taken in every word, she thinks I haven't heard anything 🙁
I think all of those things count, it doesn't matter how small or how irregular you do things, it all helps make the family home a happier place to be.
I always help my son with his homework, especially his Maths as my wife sits and agrees with his sums when they are wrong, maths isn't her strongest subject Lol, we have just finished a paper mache mountain to display how rivers start from flowing down from mountains.
Oh and something else I do for my wife is I always paint her nails :} as she says I do a better job of it than she does Lol
GTTS