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Good morning all,
My ex-wife is emotionally abusing my daughter.
My six year old openly told my partner last night, that my ex-wife has told her the following:
That my girlfriend is evil on the inside and nice on the outside.
That my girlfriends mother is also evil and should not be trusted.
That my daughter needs to stop going to our house (we have a court order in place to protect this but still).
I find this truly disturbing and disgusting that her mum is lying to her and doing this. She shows her text correspondence between myself and her mother (probably twisting it to omit her own messages).
Is there anything that I can do to stop her from poisoning my daughters mind? My girlfriend adores my daughter and so does her whole family. I think my ex is jealous that she is happy coming to us hence the reason for her doing this.
Any advice on a way forward would be appreciated, I have thought about reporting her to social services but I don't want to stress my little girl out.
My first thought is that it's something you need to try to talk through with your ex directly, as I think that will hopefully have the best outcome for your daughter. Unfortunately, I can't see an easy way through this if your ex takes exception.
I agree with actd, as far as approaching your ex about this, I doubt she will admit to it, but it might make her think twice if she knows that it will be fed back to you. Let her know that this is a form of emotional abuse and is unacceptable and if it continues you will want to speak to the school and Children's Services. Hopefully she will back off.
If you felt the need for a neutral third party to be involved, you could suggest mediation as a way to talk it through.
Best of luck