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Do you think it's ok to keep noticing members or the opposite [censored] after you are in a committed relationship?
Does this change when you are married?
I think it's ok...I still look! Why shouldn't we admire and appreciate the human form? It's healthy and harmless!
I feel awfully sorry for those guys and girls that are afraid to look for fear of upsetting their partner.... After all that has everything to do with their own confidence and jealously issues.
Do you still look GTTS?
I do still look I agree it doesn't mean you fancy your partner any less its just natural to admire someone you find attractive, maybe I trivialise it too much by saying that if a flash car drives past you will have a look you won't rush out and buy that car so it's a similar scenario.
GTTS
Haha....I think it's human nature to look at someone and find them attractive, we would all be lying if we said that instinct died just because you have committed to someone.
It's never bothered me when a partner has looked at another woman, if you're in a healthy happy relationship, surely you have agreed boundaries on what level of admiration is acceptable anyway?
Ha ha..I didn't realise my partner noticed whenever I looked, such an awkward conversation we had lol. She even mentioned that I seem to like blondes, something I never realised. I can logically narrow my looks to blondes from henceforth
I think it's quite natural to look - it's the same as admiring a work of art, something pleasing to look at but with no intention of ever having. I'm sure I look (there are quite a number of very attractive young women where I work) and my wife also may look - I never notice if she does because it doesn't worry me. If I thought she was thinking about anything more than looking, then I' doing something wrong in the marriage, and that would be a much more serious problem.
I completely agree, you say work of art, I say flash car maybe your more cultured than I am Lol