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So our divorce process is underway with petition filed a couple weeks ago. Still living under same roof and working through finances split etc in a civil way.
Anyway I was out for a drink at the weekend and got talking to someone in the bar. We have agreed to meet up next week for an informal drink.
I am not sure what the etiquette is for this - I don't want to put married partner's nose out of joint, however by the same token we are getting divorced. Should I wait until the divorce has progressed or in effect having started moving on, and not worry about it ?
Thanks !
I think you can start moving on if you're ready, but I would keep it on the low until your divorce is finalised, why upset her unnecessarily right now, when you want to reach agreement on the divorce settlement!
Hi There,
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I dated after separation and before divorce was settled, as long as your relationship is truly over and there is no way back, I don't see anything wrong with it, but it's going to be how you feel about it.
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Also be wary that while you are still married dating someone else could result in a claim for adultery as legally you are still married, my ex hinted that she was going to make that claim but actually didn't in the end.
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GTTS
my ex hinted that she was going to make that claim but actually didn't in the end.
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GTTS[/quoteMy wife said the same when I dated someone after over a year of splitting up. More laughable as she was living with another man at the time and left me for another bloke lol.
But yeah until your fully divorced its can be used against you. What peed me off the most is that after we split I kept my private life to myself away from the kids where she was pushing these new bloke on to them.
I disagree to some extent - yes she can cite adultery in the divorce, but I assume that the paperwork is already in, and also, realistically, the courts don't really care what the reason for the divorce is, there just need to be grounds so they can grant the divorce. The only advice I would give, though, is not to let your ex know who the lady is - if she wants to get you for adultery, she can still do it even if she doesn't know who it is with, but if she knows who it is, then your new lady can be dragged into to, and that you wouldn't want. I also would keep it low key as, even though you are getting divorced, people don't like to think that they can be easily replaced and it can make it more bitter. Otherwise I'd say go with whatever you are comfortable with
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