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I attempted to be amicable, even when contact was ceased.
I suggested a parenting agreement, I tried to keep it out of court, etc.
Shortly after that she stopped indirect contact too and got CMS involved. As far as she is concerned I've "interfered" in her new life, her fresh start with the new bloke - rather than simply attempting to see my children.
So fair enough, at that point I went down the court route and here we are...
But, despite the alienation, despite the revelation that the youngest child isn't mine, despite ceasing contact in the first place, despite all of these things - I maintain respect for her when my children are with me. I never bad mouth or moan, I refer to her as "mum" or "mummy".
Do I hope that one day there can be reasonable and amicable communication regarding the children - yes.
Do I ever expect that to happen - I won't be holding my breath.