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I fear that my ex wife is manipulating my only daughter. I phone up to ask how she is and I hear her mother asking her, it's your father do you want to speak to him? My nine year old didn't want to see me this weekend, I don't her mother explained the importance of seeing each other and strengthening our relationship, she just went along with it and text me to say she wouldn't be with me this weekend.
What do I do? I'm angry and upset
This is parental alienation I'm afraid. At the moment, you need to persist and try to see if there's things you can arrange that your daughter will want to come along to. If it doesn't change reasonably quickly, then look at mediation www.nfm.org.uk to see if there's a compromise that can be reached, before the option of going to court is considered.
Hi there
Actd has given you good advice... perhaps you could write to the mother first and ask her to encourage your daughter to spend time with you, she needs both parents in her life and a good parent would realise the importance of cultivating a good relationship with both parents.
If you get no joy, mediation is your next step...don't leave it too long before doing something, otherwise you're in danger of allowing a new status quo to be created. Your daughter needs to know she has a defined schedule of contact with you and Mum needs to realise that you will do whatever it takes to make sure that happens.
All the best
I agree with the above.
Write to the mother and if no joy, begin mediation.
The longer it's left, the worse it can become.
All the best
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