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I agree with 1626, it's important that you try and separate your relationship with your son and your deteriorating relationship with your wife. Why should the sins of the mother be visited on your son?
Your little boy needs support, if she is busy elsewhere then what is wrong with stepping in and giving him as much time as you can? He will benefit from this and it will help you too because at least something very precious has come out of the last 14 years...treasure him is my advice.
Your best revenge will be to bounce back from this, let her see that you are the bigger person and can get on with your life for you and your son. Don't give her the satisfaction of thinking you can't manage without her...show her you can!
Hi,well i'm a few weeks in a yes i am getting on with my life and i am seeing my son,clearly given she has put 8 mile between us and i work five and a half days it is done by the diary and i still refuse to have him overnight so her affair can blossom,she is a good mother and he is being looked after but i know when she goes back to work after the summer hols she will realise what jazzman did in that relationship.She has now admitted all of her failings in this mess and i've stayed civil and never lost control throughout
Hi jazzman, It's good that you've stayed civil and managed to talk but I would have another think about overnight access with your son, have you asked him what he would like? You might find he is missing this contact with you?
I agree with 1626... please don't let your bitterness towards your wife influence your actions towards your son, he needs you more than ever right now.
Bit late on this. I do hope that things you are feeling a little better with thing. Exact same thing happened to me as many of the posts have said and it definetly does get better and a new better life will grow. For me I relied heavily on my closest friends and family to help me get through and help me to focus as much as I could on the kids.
Good luck
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