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Hi guys, I hope I'm not the only one experiencing this, g/f is 14-15 weeks into first pregnancy and it's ok for her to be sarcastic and [censored]/joke around but me on the other hand it's against the rules full stop!!! She gets pissy if I try to cheer her up/ try to kiss or hug her but when she wants it it's a different matter!! does that make sense? And when she gets pissy with me it gets me pissy then I snap and then it turns into an argument how do I stop taking everything so personal, I know it's the hormones... Or is it??
Anyone else had this??
Cheers guys
Understanding Women on a normal day is hard enough and when pregnant multiply this by a million - when my missus was pregnant with my son it was very difficult and many arguments occured but you do have to remember it's not her fault, or your own for that matter. i just kept myself busy at work during the day and tried to keep near enough to support her but not so close to cause irritation on a night time - Just try and remain positive and shake off the random hormonal [censored] she gives you and think about what you'll have in a few months time cos i've been through it and i wouldn't change what i've got now for the world
I know what you mean mate, it can be a tricky time. My OH is pregnant too (18 weeks yesterday) so her moods can be a bit allover the place. You just have to remember that it's hormones and she can't really control it too much. She's probably feeling sick, tired and emotional, all at the same time. I wouldnt wish that on anyone. I mean, when you think about it, there's another human inside her, it's gotta mess with your brain a little bit hasnt it! 😆
Just to try be patient and keep calm, as hard as this can be. I find that by not responding to her when she snaps, she will realise that she's being a bit unreasonable and end up apologising or making amends.
And dont forget, we've not got much longer of this to endure, you're almost halfway there to seeing your little one, and all this stress will be forgotten 
Cheers guys glad it's not just me in this situation, but it's just got worse... Here goes.... I moved away 30 miles Bristol to Stroud (not alot to some I know) to be with my girl, so I have been here about 5 years and all my mates are still in Bristol, I have noone to talk too because I can't just pop down the pub for a cooling down pint with my mates, so I went to the only person I know that will listen and know where I'm coming from... My mum, I don't see a problem in that is there?? So we exchanged a few emails(lives in portugal) about what my worries were and the issues in hand, and she gave some advice, it was kinda direct advice but it was only advice from experience. So later tonight I'm in the shower and my girlfriend reads the emails.... Oh it's on like donkey kong!!! [censored] breaks loose! Your mum wants to know everything about our relationship, she's trying to control me, you got some sort of plan to stop me doing what I want..... Jesus where the [censored] did this come from????!!!!!
So after about 3 hours of not talking I go out for a walk to clear my head, we start txting and sort of get a few things straight but then she send me a message ment for her friend....
"I really feel like I'm cracking up hun! Maybe I should go, it would be for the best wouldn't it"
I ask her what she means and then she says that she doesn't love me like she used to, now I'm bricking it thinking that once the baby's born is she Gunna ditch me?
She said that she doesn't want to leave me but if it doesn't work out it doesn't work out.
Is this hormones at work here???
Hi mate
Sounds like things are a bit rough at the moment. However, in my experience, I would say that, yes, this is hormones. I know it sounds like an excuse or whatever but in my experience when a woman's pregnant, she can say all kindsa crazy s%!t 👿
When my OH was having her 2nd a few years ago we were dating (she'd split from her ex-husband 6 months before) and i lost count of the number of times she told me she hated me, didnt think it was gonna work out, she'd be better off alone etc etc. It basically boiled down to a combination of hormones and fear of the future, but once the baby came along she returned to "normal" (if there is such a thing).
Just try to be as supportive as possible, give her space but make sure she feels loved and just do the best you can. I'm sure things will work out alright for you in the end.
Out of interest mate, how old are you guys? Is this your first baby?
BTW - I know how you feel about the moving away thing, I moved 270 miles when I was 18, left all my family behind, and although i've lived in the same town now for 10 years and have got mates, it's not the same as the people you grew up with, plus my best mate moved to spain last year (lucky sod!) So if you ever feel like a virtual pint, maybe we should set up some kinda pub in here so we can have a drink together
Hi Dynamicdave
You are really having a difficult time right now - I hope that things will settle down after the birth, although it is worrying for you that your girlfriend is having these thoughts about being better off if she went. You need to keep the lines of communication open with her, tell her how you feel about the move, not seeing your mates etc and that you didn't mean any harm when you turned to your mum for someone to confide in. I can imagine this is what made her flip - if she doesn't have a good relationship with your mum, she may have felt threatened by her and see her comments as 'interfering'. Unfair I know, but that's how it is for some.
Can you try to improve your social life where you are now. Do you play any sports - could you join a local footie team for example or do you have any colleagues at work you'd see out of work?
so today i need a place to rant, so here it is...
today the wife is very hormonal, which in reality equates to being really snappy one minute, joking the next and on the verge of tears seconds later, only to repeat the cycle in about an hours time. 👿
Now I know this is just pregnancy hormones doing their thing but man it can be annoying sometimes. i've bit my tongue and kept quiet...had to literally bite my tongue at one point so as not to say anything but still it makes me wanna yell GRRRRR!!!
anyway, as i said, just needed to rant..feel much better now...thanks 😆
Sometimes, a good (safe) rant is the best thing possible 😀
Hi guys sorry for late replies and Happy fathers day for Sunday past!
Well we had a chat and things smoothed themselves out but then it blew up again yesterday and we had another chat and it was soon again ok, looks like this is going to be the way for the next few months!! Yay fun!!
Oh and she flipped when I sprayed air freshener in the wrong direction!! Pmsl!!
A virtual pint would be nice, maybe a group web cam/chat room with a few beers?! Lol
sounds good to me mate. 😀
spraying the air freshner in the wrong direction??? PMSL! 😆 😆