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Hi all, I've been having unsupervised contact with my two year old daughter for some time now. We have a fairly close relationship, but recently when shes with me, she has been asking for my ex partners new boyfriend alot. They've been together for some time now and I know he has been bonding with my daughter alot 🙁 But the laat few weeks randomly and out of the blue, my daughter will say that she wants to see him. This breaks my heart, and I obviously know there is probably nothing I can do about this, but I was wondering if anybody had any simliar experiences on this matter and what to do? Or any tips on how I can make our time together more special so she wont ask for him whilst spending time with daddy. Sorry in advance if this sounds petty. I know its life and I have to deal with it. But when she says his name and that she wants to see him. It just breaks my heart.
Hi There,
I can relete to this fully, I had similar some years back with my son wanting to return home to see his mums new man, as you say its heart renching and nothing can make hearing that any easier.
The way I looked at it, is that my son was in a place where this man he has contact with features in his life, that won't change so the way I looked at it was at least my son was ok with him being there and it didn't trouble him. This isn't great still as it still cuts deep, everytime you hear the name, and believe me I heard this guys name in almost every other sentence at times. but at least it wasn't in a negative way and I wasn't being told he didn't want to see him for what ever reason as actually that would have been harder ot deal with as you can't impact who your ex see's or brings into your child life.
Not a lot of help I know other than knowing your not alone and this isn't petty at all.
GTTS
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