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Hi Everyone,
Needing some advice if possible.
I have been separated from my ex for some time now, trying on and off to sort things. Recently the relationship became very toxic to the point we were being verbally abusive to each other. My ex has started seeing someone else (suspicion is a policeman).
Last week I was taken from my work by police and took to the local station for questioning – not thinking, I didn’t ask for a lawyer as I thought it was [censored] for tat behaviour on both our parts. As a result I was arrested under the communications act and I am due in court at the end of the month. As part of the bail conditions I was told I was not allowed into the premises that we jointly share under our mortgage agreement (both paying half each), before then I was allowed to come and go as I pleased to see the kids although I am currently staying with my parents until the house is sold.
So for the last month, my ex has accused me of stealing her belongings (make Up , jewellery, mail and god knows what else).. as well as claiming I am stalking and harassing her.
I have now discovered (nosey neighbours) that since I was arrested, my ex’s new boyfriend has been coming to the house at night once the kids are sleeping at around 2100 hours and leaving around midnight. Both kids (7 & 3) are unaware this is going on, I am not 100% comfortable with this and was wondering if there is a way I can put a stop to this until the house is sold? I am not happy that I have this restraining order over me and still having to pay half the mortgage while she sneaks her new boyfriend into the house and my kids who have never met this man are asleep in their beds.
Does anyone know if I can do anything about this ?
Thanks
K
Hi There,
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As far as I am aware, there wouldn't be anyway to stop this, I understand the way you feel, but I think that even though you own half the house and are still paying half the mortgage she would be able to allow who ever she wanted into the house.
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Not great i know, may be worth checking with a solicitor though as I may be wrong, many will offer a 30 min free session, if you call and enquire about them representing you, you would get chance to ask some questions while there.
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GTTS
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