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Hi,
My boyfriend, James, and his ex have a daughter together who is 3. James and his ex have never got on and his relationship with his daughter is constantly on and off as his ex stops us from seeing her a lot. His ex has got another boyfriend and has since had a child with him. His ex text me yesterday (she doesn't text him as they always argue) asking me to ask/mention to James about her boyfriend adopting James daughter.
His ex trapped James and James never wanted children. Should I mention something to him or not? I know it HAS to be 100% his decision. We are both going away a week on Friday. I was thinking about telling him now, then he has a good few weeks to think about it. Or will it ruin the holiday? Im so confused! Please - any advice is really helpful!!
Hi there
I think you should talk to him about it and just support him with whatever decision he makes.
As you are going away it will be a good time to think things over and if you tell now he will have a couple of weeks to get his head around it, so it shouldn't ruin your holiday.
If you don't tell him and he finds out she asked you about it, that may well cause trouble between you, even though you are only trying to protect him.
It's hard to tell the people we love things that we know they don't want to hear, but this is about his child and I feel he needs to know....he has you to help him through it.
Good luck
Definitely talk to him about it, otherwise his ex is going to drive a wedge between you and James, and that's not how it should be. Imagine how he will feel when he finds out (and he will if legal papers come through) and you haven't told him.