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Unless she is moving to prevent contact only, then the courts are not usually so willing to prevent her from moving. If it's 400 miles, is it out of the country (England and Scotland are counted as separate countries as far as family law is concerned) so that may help you a little.
Otherwise, you need to look for a contact arrangement that makes up for the difficulties in travel. I did do contact every alternate weekend when my ex moved 200 miles away in the early days of my divorce, which as doable, but hard work (I drove the 400 mile round trip), so you definitely need to find a good contact arrangement if it goes to that.
The court will be expecting the mother to have a proposal for contact and travel. If her move goes ahead, perhaps you could push for her to do half the travel and seek extended contact periods in school holidays?
I am now going through the courts for contact.
But the children have been brain washed over months by her side of the family.
Cafass report soon but will they think about a balanced life for the children so just what mum wants?
Unfortunately outcomes are impossible to predict, if the move is successful, as Yoda has said, it will be up to her to show how contact will be managed, if you lose out on frequency of contact, this is often made up by giving the non resident parent more time during school holidays. Things like FaceTime or Skype can also be included in the order.
I agree with Yoda, push for shared travel arrangements too.
All the best