Hi all new here.
I 3 weeks ago I found my daughter's mobile number. I sent her a message. She and her brother did sort of respond to me, but now they say they don't want anything to do with me.
They are 35 & 36.
I had terrible patents and have absolutely no idea how to try to get conversation started.
Anyone know where else I could find guidance? Thanks
Hi all new here.
I 3 weeks ago I found my daughter's mobile number. I sent her a message. She and her brother did sort of respond to me, but now they say they don't want anything to do with me.
They are 35 & 36.
I had terrible patents and have absolutely no idea how to try to get conversation started.
Anyone know where else I could find guidance? Thanks
I'm really sorry to hear that things are tough with your kids. Reconnecting after all that time apart is bound to be tricky. Maybe try taking it slow and giving them space to come around on their own terms. It could also help to find a therapist who specializes in family stuff—they might have some good ideas for how to bridge the gap. Hang in there, and I hope things start to improve soon.
That sounds like a very difficult and upsetting situation for you. It seems that your children were very young when they last saw you or had contact with you and they most likely find this hard too. It's obviously difficult to change their minds, so maybe it's more about simply letting them know that you are thinking about them and not really having any expectations of what may happen either way. You might wish to mention that you would like to meet them if they feel they can sometime, that you understand it is all very strange and hard for all of you, but that you have no expectations of them. Or maybe even just messaging to ask if you could message occasionally - without having any expectation of meeting up.
You could take a look at the info here, which may be of help:
https://www.standalone.org.uk/guides/parents/
Parent Support, Spurgeons (mum of 3)