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I had to laugh 🙂
I was searching the web for stuff around stay at home dads in case I could find something local.
One of my hits was on Edinburgh University running a project on Semantics of Ancient Hebrew Database.
It tickled my funny bone because it hadn't even occurred to me that there could be another use for the abbreviation SAHD.
😀 /mrOrange
I have been toiling with the subject of father and what God meant when jesus was recieving his baptism..... this is my son, the beloved,whom I have approved.
Is it enough to say to your child you love them and all positive things and not be around much doing stuff together.
Is it enough to say to your child you love them and all positive things and not be around much doing stuff together.
My father did this - he was working all hourse to provide (didn't know this at the time) - but I knew he loved me and I never felt that I missed out. When we did stuff together as a family, it was that bit more special.
I hope my kids feel the same way about me.
Hi Millerzd,
(sorry, my reply has taken time to write)
What you asked brings up a continuum for me:
Uses words alone <------------------------------------ Uses actions alone
At one end we might briefly say things like I love you, but rarely tuck our child in.
The other end might have us giving up our energy to provide food, clothes, roof. Taking time to teach practical skills for adult life, going for a walk etc.
My sense is that it is when there is mixture of expressing our deep love for our child verbally, actively spending time with them.
A week or two ago i saw a thread on Dads Talk about Love Languages.... These might give us insights about how to spend time that our child would recognise as love... I will try putting a few ideas down off the cuff:
Spend time talking (listening for what their favourite passtimes, friends, etc are), or,
getting your hands dirty with them as you help them with their jobs (mend the bike, clean their room, muddle through homework...), or,
normal physical contact each day, maybe having time to hug in the hallway, giving 'piggy back' across the muddy path, or,
an occasional gift of something fitting in with what you know of them, their dreams, aspirations, needs (as opposed to material 'wants').
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