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I know there are many options open
but what hobbies do other fathers think are good for a father and son to discuse and potentually open up options for his son?
My daughter of 12 of course loves horses and i am lucky as an ex-pro showjumper in that i have many ways i can help her and i have the facilities available to me that enable that.
But my son (11) needs more (one to one time and love) he does not for many reasons want to go down the horse route....
Fishing is a posibility lakes are avilable and i can make them private when needed.
But these are just two options what would others surgest and why?
Just looking for options, reasons why and pitfalls that i should avoid.

Thanks for any advice

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Me and My brother used to play snooker and pool with our dad, every Sunday evening we would wander off the the snooker club for a couple of hours, I don't remember much talking but it was our time with him.

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How about chess - it's just you and him whatever is going on around you.

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Golf
I've been playing golf with my father for around 15yrs, i hope one day my little boy would want to play, then there will be 3 generations playing 🙂

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My lad if now 6 and he's been trying football but his heart really isn't in it. I'm keen to try a bunch of stuff and see what he falls in love with. I love golf and he loves the idea of it so thats next on our list!

Great question though.

I don't even mind if he loves something that I don't. I'll get into it for his sake. (Obviously if he becomes an Arsenal fan I'll disown him but other than that, I'm up for anything!) 😀

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well, there's always microlighting 🙂

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We play badminton every week - he still gets a head start but it wont be long before he starts beating me 🙁

Your local gym or sports hall should accomodate and it isn't that expensive

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This is a great thread,

My step son plays tag rugby and starts cricket soon as well which is great as he loves it, I'm not so keen on standing on the side line but he enjoys it.

But my son isn't active in that way so finding things for him isn't as easy especially. As I only see him every other. Weekend, I have suggested he might lime to play rugby too but he isn't interested, think we are going to try jogging see how we get on as we both need to before active.

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I have been doing Karate with my son (now 8) for the past 2 years. Both started together and it has been fun. We are able to practise together and grade together. It is our thing and ensures that even though we are in a class we are doing this one thing together twice a week.

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Thats a great idea - starting something together. then you can encourage each other and be a bit competitive too. Lets face it, who doesn't like being better at something than their dad!

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Searching for buried treasure! 🙂 Get a good metal detector and go explore! Do some research on the places to go and start looking, which you could do together ...like sites of ancient battles etc.... That incorporates a bit of history/education and its a fun way of learning!

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I started playing badminton with my sons a few years ago - it is a game for all levels and it good for hand eye co-ordination, fitness etc.

There are lots of badminton clubs around for him to join as well

And of course because it is indoors can be played all year round

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Making and building things, doesn't matter what it is, my boy loves tools and hammers, we make banger toy cars, start off with a good toy car and turn it into a banger car... good fun and also a good way to take the stress out 😉

I involve him in anything i make (when i can) we made him a wooden house (its a shed made from pallets) in our yard.

When he gets older we're going to make a go-kart 😉

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As a lover of cycling in all forms, I'm biased in my response to this question as I know of so many fathers that also go out cycling with their families.

But if that's not your thing, squash is quite good fun. I don't play that with my dad, but I was introduced by a friend who I thought was amazing at the game, then one day told me "my biggest goal in squash is to one day beat my dad". In over 15 years of playing, and despite him being in the top division of the local league he'd never beaten his dad.

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We all love cycling and try to go out as a family - now the boys are older we often go 20 miles or more!!

As for squash have introduced both of them to the game - I don't think it will take them 15 years to beat me!

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Searching for buried treasure! 🙂 Get a good metal detector and go explore! Do some research on the places to go and start looking, which you could do together ...like sites of ancient battles etc.... That incorporates a bit of history/education and its a fun way of learning!

Or Geocaching looks alright.

What about mountain biking or model making sure to get a giggle when your both covered in glue and paint.

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Searching for buried treasure! 🙂 Get a good metal detector and go explore! Do some research on the places to go and start looking, which you could do together ...like sites of ancient battles etc.... That incorporates a bit of history/education and its a fun way of learning!

Or Geocaching looks alright.

What about mountain biking or model making sure to get a giggle when your both covered in glue and paint.

Geocaching is a good call - easy to get into nowadays with smart phones, and a great way to combine adventure with the great outdoors!

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My eldest is looking to do Engineering at university and tomorrow we are going to a lecture at Cambridge University about how engineering helped in the war and in particular Colditz and Dambusters

A good way to spend some time together

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Badminton is a fantastic hobby! Keeps your family in good shape health wise and its very challenging and active. Give it a go!

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Yeah I agree - that was until my 15 year old thrashes me every time we get on the court!!

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A good one would be to find out if there's any local police auctions near by they always have stolen/lost bikes for sale for pennies and you could go there buy a few fix them up together and let him sell them on. I met a few people who done that with their kids.

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