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Hello to all and all the Best for 2013,
Well after being royal shafted by the Ex who is very clever to say the least or was that just greedy. Anyway as an easy hit by the CSA i ended up having to pay £750 per month for my 2 boys that my has stopped letting them stay for 50% of the time as they used to. Moved in with my partner and ex not a happy bunny. Anyway my oldest son started work and is doing as and Apprentice Electrical engineer with OPITO. Problem being he work away Monday to Friday and is in his mothers house for 1 or max 2 nights a week now. Therefore I suggested to the Ex that we reduce the CSA payments and I would give £100 a month directly to my son, especially as he is now working and does not even stay with you very much. No suprise I was told NOT!!!! Contacted the CSA and they have said as long as she claims Child Benefit they can do nothing. Contacted Child Benefit and was very rudely told that as I was not the old "Parent with care" tehy would not give me any help or details. Did a bit of digging and it appears because his first year is deemed a NC course Child benefit would / should still be paid????
Therefore my question is? Now that the Child benefit will stop as her partner earns well over the £60K should I reduce the payments accordingly. Any advice or commnet would be appreciated.
Hi I dont know the answer, but very interesting question and hopefully some one will know. I wouldnt reduce till you know for definate. I bet they have come up with some plan that you still have to pay or it could have been over looked. I expect the person you spoke to didnt even no the answer hence the rudeness they dont seem to know that csa payments went to 20 inline with the cb payments
They way I understand it, unless they have opted out of child benefit, then it still continues to be paid for over 60k, but it is all clawed back through and increase in tax, so while they may not actually receive any extra money through child benefit, they are still receiving it.
hi i am doing this for my 19 year old son who has just been told by the [censored] child support agency/ maintenance people that he now has to pay £350 a month cos they want back the arrears that they have taken 6 months to decide how much he should pay, he sent them all his employees details and heard nothing from them for ages, his ex girlfriend is getting all the benefits she entitled to and he has now been told that she is likely to keep those and still get the maintenance money on top so basically he understands that she will be getting more than he earns a month, he gets to see his 2 year old son twice a month through a contact centre cos the mediation broke down when he got a job and he is so scared of going to a soliciter and ask for access once a month in case she stops all contact between them, i just want to help him but have 4 other kids to care for and i think as a grandparent i should as well as him get the right to see the child but the mum is so nasty and says that she will just stop us all seeing him, what can we do to get more access or find out how to stop the high maintenance payments. PLEASE HELP US GET THROUGH THIS 🙁
HI
Unfortunately, there is nothing he can do to stop the level of maintenance payment if the calculation has been done correctly, and the CSA do seem to be very fierce at reclaiming arrears recently.
With regards to contact, unfortunately, he may have to face the fact that she may try to restrict contact in the short term if he tries to get contact increased. It is a matter that he will have to look over the longer term to get contact increased and possibly get supervision reduced.
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