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Hi,
I haven't posted for a while, but want to quickly post a thank you.
I had some pretty crazy issues when my ex and I split, not as bad as some of you granted, but not the easiest stuff to deal with. I posted them here and found more help, advice and support than I thought I would ever find.
I am happily able to report that all appears (for now) to be calm. There are still some issues revolving around schooling (he just turned 5 and is not is school......yes I know) and in regard to me being the root of all evil, however in general things are good.
Anyway, I said "quickly post" and have failed at that so to the point I must go:
Thank you. Thank you for all your help, advice and even just being there to listen/read my situation. You truly have no idea how you have not only improved my life with my son, but my life in general.
Cheer again,
Vaz
Hi Vaz 🙂
Thanks for coming by and updating us, its always great when we get a follow up as often we give advice and then never get to hear how things have turned out!
It does concern me that your child hasn't started school yet, its something that is so important for him, so I would advise that you try and get it sorted ASAP...if your ex is refusing to get him enrolled then perhaps you should remind her that it is a legal requirement! 😉
all the best 🙂
Hi,
its a little more complex then that to be honest.
I am well aware of how important school is, however his mother (who has primary residency) does appear to have pushed the subject for a while. The long and short of it is that she used to live only a mile from his previous school and subsequently (because life was hard) moved 40 odd miles away. She was able to get him to school until her car went bang and she lost the ability to drive. I obviously suggested that until she had a new place set up he come to live with me Monday to Friday as is live only a 20 min walk from his previous school.
Alas this was unacceptable and accusations of me attempting to steal him away (exact wording) were made, so this did not happen, for any
In an effort to get him into school I have phone both the old council and new council and got advice about how to proceed, unfortunately there is nothing I can do. As the none-resident parent they are unable to tell me if he is on a waiting list or if he has been offered a place in a school etc
Whenever I ask her what's going on i get spume of "i sent the forms off and the council lost them" and things along those lines. However if I am honest i simply don t believe her - she has always left things to the last Min.
Eventually the educational welfare will get involved, should this happen and her competence as a parent be bought into focus, i hope that my continual efforts to find out what's going on, get advice and push her toward sorting this out sooner rather than later are noted and taken account of.
We shall see what the future holds.
Vaz
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