[Solved] son wont go

took my son to meeting,he was a pain all morning,the night before he was restless and got little sleep,on the way there he was very upset and loud with some choice words,i calmed him down and we turned in to the carpark,and **it hit the fan,
15 mins later he went quite but refused to get out of car,i went up to office and told the officer she came down and he wouldnt budge,
now she tells me her report will say he doesnt want to see his mum and a child psyco might help,
i asked for this 15mths ago and cafcass told the judge my son didnt need this it would do more harm than good,needless to say the judge went with cafcass. after putting my son throuh [censored],they go with my recommendation of child physo,talk about shutting the door after the horse has bolted.
in court on thurs,new court,new judge,new cafcass officer,i can only hope at least one of these start listening to my son,
his wishes and feelings have been disreguarded and spit upon by cafcass and this officer,
i will let you know the outcome on thurs,if im not hung drawn and quartered lol 😡

well, on the plus side, it looks as though you and your son may finally be getting the message across. I would suggest in court that you encourage indirect contact (letters, cards etc) as a judge will take more kindly to that than no contact at all.

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court was a eye opener,
the judge came out all guns blazing at me,slightly at his mother and then commented on cafcass disision to get my son counseling
(which i applied for 12mths ago and cafcass said NO,
the judge said it disturbed her that i had wrote a letter of complaint about the officer and callied her a bully,that the officer had just been doing her job,( there are right and wrong ways and i belive that she did her job the wrong way)
i was not allowed to say a word my barrister was sat 2 rows ahead so i couldnt talk to him,
the judge reguards me as letting my son the choice as abuse of parenting,
new judge same s***,
but at least my sons going to get conceling,and the judge will talk to him in the presence of the new cafcass office :woohoo:
the judge also said she was concerened about what my son told his GP about his mum,this was in the report,(as of yet im still waiting for report)but think it was her lack of interation (letters,tx and such not being sent)
the judge ordered his mum write at least once a week,
his mum has been told this by me,cafcass and the guardian but has never done it,
back in a court on 12dec sort out xmas,
im sick of being threatened that my kids will be made to live with thier mum if my son wont go,
hopfully my son will get sorted and change his mind after some counceling,
it would never have got this far if they cafcass would have listened to me and my ex about getting my son help in the first place,
and just saying its his MUM he must go then hope for the best is is wrong,
and for the record i stand by my letter of complaint,cafcass has to much power and they know it and abuse it 😡

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new cafcass officer Number 3.......
this officer came to see me last wk,
what a nice man,
firstly he told me about himself, he's been divoriced has children and one at my sons age,
then he asked me about how my wife had left,
he said and i quote " he's concerened that nobody has listenrd to my son and thats the first thing he's going to do"
he does'nt belive making my son go to thier offices of any benifit whatsoever as its not a natural setting.
he agree's that my son has gone through a [censored] of a lot and he wont try to make he go but will try to get why he wont go,
and go from there'
i think this officer will stick to what he said,he seems more concerened with my son and not just making him go,
the thing i liked the most about him,he hadnt read any cafcass reports that had been done and did not threaten me in any way,he was annoyed that the other offices had told my son that I could get in trouble and go to jail....
what did SUPRISE me the most was when i said (if it was me that beat the [censored] out of her and left then i wouldnt have a hope)
to which he replied "i would have to be tested for alchol,anger management,and jump through all kinds of hoops"
and not only agreed but ask me if i had thought about asking her to do all this hoop jumping,
I DO REALLY THINK MY SON WILL BE LISTENED TOO NOW and not just "its dads fault and he will go"
officer back tomorrow to speak to sons,
if cafcass listened in first place this could have been resolved a year ago,and at little cost not the 10s of £0000s it must be now.
3 sols,3 barristers,2 judges,3 cafcass officers and now a child councellor,and he still wont go,
this has to be over oneway or the other as this is affecting my son more and more,
im still going ahead with complaint and my MP has asked cafcass CEO to review to case..........

Slowly but surely 🙂