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Hello again
been to court got my consent order just waiting on the absolute divorce was granted as a clean break, house is on the market and equity to be shared 50/50 had no viewings in last month.
she is now moaning that i am not giving her any money for the kids but i did tell her along with my solicitor and no maintenance order granted as there is no money untill the house is sold and all finances have been cleared with the equity and then maintenance will be discussed.
i have now been able to get a mortgage and have made an offer which is not far short of the 50% she would get if we could sell at the current asking price (highly unlikley). only to get a letter from her solicitor saying that she is willing to accept my off subject to should i co-habitate, re marry, sell the house, or die she wants an additional 30k which takes her share to approx 70% and then to have her say that i am not moving on ??????? how can you when you have a bounty of 30k over your head (good reason not to meet some one).
then to be told she has found some where to live (great i think) only to find its a private rent for £1350 a month not bad for a lady who does not work and she tells me she has ordered new furniture aswell ???????????????. ontop of all this she has contacted the CSA !!!
and to top that my eldest son does not want to come and stay with me saying he wants to stay with grandad because he wants one to one with him
i am going mad trying to get stability in all of this
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How is she affording the rent and furniture? !!!
I assume your divorce is done through a solicitor - if so, he is best placed to deal with her demand for extra £30k, but I can't see any possible justification for this demand. I think that the court can demand that the property is sold at the market rate- whether they can then say that she has to accept an offer from your for her 50% is something I'm not sure about, your solicitor will advise on this.
CSA is probably best bet for you anyway (but there's no choice anyway), but if your son isn't living with her, then she wouldn't get anything for him (and make sure child benefit for his part is stopped also). I would expect, however, that he will come around soon enough as long as you keep seeing him on a regular basis. You will probably run up some arrears while the divorce/finances are being settled, but the CSA is very slow on these, so by the time they threaten you with court etc, it will have been settled. Take your time to respond to them, and query everything (you could also tell them that you won't speak to them on the phone, but want everything to be done in writing) to slow the process down, but always keep in touch with them so you don't alienate yourself - you basically have to ensure that you are co-operating within the time allowed.
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