[Solved] Mid Life Crisis

Have you and your ex's relationship improved over the years since you split actd ?

sorted = not.

we all have choices.
life isn't a bed of roses.

in amongst getting stressed out with things being 'always the same':
- relationship
- responsibilities
- habbits

...there is the scaringly-wonderful thing of wanting to support your adult-child through the Creatively Realistic Actual Passing things [think about it]....

As a parent it is so painful watching your adult-childen going throuth stuff which you want to protect them from - but that is not reality!!
they have to learn and grow through their experiences and the choices they make. It is such a difficult thing to watch your children growing in independance and security as they go through life.

The intersting thing for me from this thread is: how will i support my kids/their-partners as they go through mid-life-crisis (can we abbreviate this a MLC?).
I hope i can take them hanggliding, skinny dipping in the lake, shave their head, walk through town with them wearing a top-hat: somehow finding a way to support them when they are grappling for what to do next...

Nice idea - I'm still trying to get my head round supporting mine, now she is a 16 yo.

She used to hang on my every word and I knew everything - now I know nothing (apparently).

Thinking about it she is more right than she knows :huh:

...Thats so poignant Mr O and i know what you mean...we cant protect them from the realities of life, we just have to be there for them ...no matter how old they are they will always be... my children.

This is where you all are..........

She used to hang on my every word and I knew everything - now I know nothing (apparently).

Isn't that the same with all teenagers ?

I guess so - it feels different when it's your teenager though.

I remember a few years back, I was a football coach for a girls football team and had been bemoaning to a fellow coach my daughters mood swings - he reliably informed me that his N was not like a normal teenager, she was level headed and never had any mood swings. I had a little chuckle knowingly to myself. Six months later he didn't know what had hit him 😆 She was just a late developer teenage mood-wise.

Don't get me started on moody teenagers - in two weeks time I will two of them!!!

I have 2 children who are passed teenage years, and I can honestly say I never went through the usual teenage angst.

However, my third may be starting to make up for it 😆 Well, sometimes anyway.

We had a spectacular tantrum on Sunday evening resulted in my eldest being sent to his room and told to switch off anything electrical such as PC and TV.

Next time I will video it for you Actd - see what you're missing!!!

Oh the Mid Life Crisis.... I think I entered mine a few years ago and I have never really acknowledged it. Looking at this topic though, I think it's probably obvious now that is what I have been going through. Not sure where I could possibly begin to talk about it. Not sure I'm ready to although I am slowly building up to the courage to.

I will comment on the moody teenager bit though as that is 100% relevant to one of the troubles in my life at the moment. I am a step dad to two of them and the female one is going through a particularly difficult time at the moment. Or at least seems to be. To be honest, I think a lot of it is attention seeking. Thing is, she has been such a [censored] to me over the last few months and regularly for the last couple of years that I no longer care. At least, I tell my self that but of course, I wouldn't feel passionately about the situation if I really didn't.

I miss being hugged by her, talked to by her and even being looked at. Yep, I get none of those things and the last time we were close, well, it must be several years ago. As you can imagine, my 'not caring' attitude has caused tensions with my partner and that is completely understandable. Still, I console my self with the fact I am only human and that it's normal to finally stop taking the [censored] (and give it back once in a while.) I don't deserve it and until I am told otherwise, I will stand by that sentiment!

Apologies. didn't mean to bring the tone down.

N.D.

Hi , this is what i did, it caused so much upset with my sd being a madam , I decided to ignore her that way she couldnt get to me or cause me and hubby to argue, yes he tried to make me see sence ! and said U are the adult but I just could not cope, if I let my guard down and was nice to her it back fired, so i shut down and when hubby asked me to speak to her i said NO , i just kept myself busy, she didnt come over as much as she said she didnt feel welcome, to dam right she wasnt, she ruined my wedding, my honey moon , weekends , nasty text, she did everything to split us us, so i shut down to survive. Now things have improved but im still aware , when she says jump Daddy jumps

I'm sorry to hear that, AK57. I guess in a way I have shut down to an extent, just not totally. I see things that bother me and occasionally I will moan or comment. The trick is to think it and not say it (so the mrs tells me!) She is of course, right but as I have zero support from her, parenting wise, it's difficult to see common sense sometimes......