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Hello all,
Need some help and advice as I am going mental.
I have split up with my ex and we have 2 children together my daughet is nearly 17 months and my son nearly 4 months.
She has stopped all contact with them and solicitors are now involved and as of yet there have been no court orders of any kind.
I used to see them at least once a week but this stopped when my ex demanded that I take time off work to have the children as it was the only way she would allow me to see them.
We have had a number of arguments and I once lost my temper with her and said I would hit her after she was bouncing my daughter on her knee saying we hate daddy, we dont want him here, she has recorded me threatening her in anger. There is no evidence of any physical abuse and there was none at all during our relationship, in fact the police have been called twice by myself after I was assaulted by her.
Does anyone know if the above will go against me if this ended going to court, even after this threat she still allowed me to have the children overnight. And she only stopped contact after I went to a solicitor after her unreasonable demands
The second thing is I am still paying the nursery fees for my daughter is there anything to stop me going to the nursery and seeing my daughter there or would this go against me if it does end up goin gto court, the other thing is would i be able to take her from nursery and keep her with me away from her mother would she be able to contact the police and make me return my daughter to her.
I am at my wits end as I dont know how my children are and I know she is leaving them both with her disabled father who is not a fit person to look after two young children.
Any advice would be appriciated.
Many Thanks
Hi and welcome to the forum.
Whatever the legalities, I wouldn't go to the nursery, either to see your daughter, or to take her away - the courts will not look on this at all favourably. As for the recording - it doesn't help a great deal, but I think if you explain the circumstances to a court, they would understand why you reacted, even if they don't like the way you did - in my opinion, I would be inclined to raise the point in court first in your statement, rather than let your ex do so and you have to go on the defensive. It would be interesting to ask why exactly your ex was recording on that occasion - I wonder whether her actions were designed specifically to provoke a reaction to catch on tape.
Cheers, I have e mailed my solicitor to see what she recomends she basically set me up and has tried to on a number of occasions. Despite the fact she is claiming that she is terrified of me she has asked me over late at night to drop of my daughters teddy bear that she has left behind at my house. I have also had both my children overnight since my angry outburst. I just can't believe that she is acting this way and denying our children the right to see their dad. She has also been leaving my kids with her disabled dad all day who in no way is fit to look after 2 young children under 17 months. I am glad I have found this site gives me a chance to talk to people that are going or have been through the same type of thing.
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