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You are going to need an address where you can be reached as they do have to be able to send papers to you - could you use your parents address? If not, you could apply for a PO box, but this does cost and I think the Post Office are obliged to give the address that it's based on if asked.
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You are going to need an address where you can be reached as they do have to be able to send papers to you - could you use your parents address? If not, you could apply for a PO box, but this does cost and I think the Post Office are obliged to give the address that it's based on if asked.
actd is right you will need an address, I would say the same use your folks address from what you say they are supportive and want to see your child too.
I would take this as a positive as it sounds like she may be trying to start talks on making some kind of contact.
Darren
im on my own... they live in yorkshire and she has said shes not going to lie to her solicitor she knows i dont live with them...
ive been up all night crying...
i dont understand why she said i cud see him and we was gonna sort it out with ourslves now shes geting her solicitor involved its likes shes trying to destroy me...
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It's not about her lying to her solicitor or you not living with your parents, it's about you having a secure address for receiving correspondence as you have no fixed abode at present. That address is your parents' address and it will be known as your c/o or care of address, simple.
You may not feel like it now but it's probably best that you do go down the legal route to see your son, although you will have had to try mediation first, that way there's more chance of things being sorted if she doesn't stick to things that have been agreed. I wish I had done something legal about contact earlier and I wouldn't be in my situation now. 🙁
Good luck and chin up
well your already doin the smart thing by keeping all the text messages you wanna make sure you keep everything thats said on record just incase
its the levels on irrationality ive never experienced before.. i know even if she had cheated on me id of gave up and forgave her.. its like she is possessed with hate and determined to make it as difficult as possible cos she has all control.
im gonna have a think about my own options how i can make my life better and show her i can support them both.
first things first..
address.
solicitors.
and then court to get parental responsibilty.?
what is the pay limit for legal aid?
i was just refused due to a 1 off bonus.. can i get re assessed?
this whole thing is just so pointless.. i shud be speaking to her about this stuff.. but yet im saying it online.
i think im just fighting a loosing battle.
Hi CBM.I have read all your post's and reply's and i must say i can relate to what your going through.My son is seven and i separated from my wife of ten years in January this year.Reading the e-mail you were sent reminded me of text messages and mail i received .That you are not of any interest to her and she want's nothing to do with you that is really hard to take. As everyone else on here has said it does get easier not better but easier.Your dead right in thinking about you and your options that's what you have to do to be able to move on. I miss my wife, my son, my home and the security of the family unit.I can replace a house a wife if i choose to do so but i cannot replace my son.He is not her's he is our's.The thing is you cannot make somebody want to be with you and we have to except this. I am still trying to get regular contact with my son but playing the waiting game seem's to have worked for me.As the time has gone on my ex is becoming more mellow because i stopped a good few month's ago asking to see my son and getting into nasty text exchanges it became apparent to her that i was not going to let her wind me up over seeing my son this took away her control.I see my son on average 20 hours a month not great but better than nothing. Keep your chin up fella don't do anything daft. As i said it does get easier best of luck.
thank you i just miss her so much.. but growing to hate her.. lots of emotions running threw my head dont know what i shud do all i know is its making me very ill.. she dosnt care how this is affecting me lets just see what happens next..
what i dont know how to deal with is the guilt i feel like i caused this and i deserve this to happen to me.. i dont have a clue what im doing with my life anymore..it has no purpose no goal no ambition.. shes taken the one thing i was working for and now i have just given up all fight...
if i did kill myself it wud prob just be the best decision for everyone my son deserves better than me..
Hi CBM
As everyone has said it is difficult at first. I had the same emotions as you missed my ex like mad and if she would of asked me back i'd have been there in a heartbeat.But as i said previously we can't force anyone to be with us, your head is all over the place right now. I was the same anger ,guilt no hope, in a world of [censored] to be honest.But i was determined not to let my ex control me with her twisted mind it is different in that my boy is older and he is trying his best to cope with all this but he still know's how much i care,love and will always be there for him no matter what . This is what you have to concentrate on i'm begging you don't give up. Show your ex ,and more than anyone, yourself and your son that you are not a failure because you are not , sometimes things just don't work out how we want them to.You will probably say yeah easier said than done and your right it is easier said than done believe me everyone on here has been through or going through what you are and untill you HAVE been through it it's hard for other's to understand.We all have good day's and bad day's focus on the good day's and the bad one's will subside you have to stay positive that is the only way i and no doubt most of the bloke's on here carry on and eventually get to see our kid's.
Stay strong mate .
Hi,
We are here to help, please keep talking to us.
Because of how low you are feeling I would also like to give you details for the Samaritans, if you are considering suicide then please speak to them first. They can be contacted at any time and the service is totally confidential. Their phone number is 08457 90 90 90 or you can email them jo@samaritans.org.
Deso66
I mirror the above,
I'm on here on and off all day, so please feel free to chat.
Have you managed to get to the doctors yet?
If not I'd urge you to make an appointment today, we can help by talking but the doctors can help with a more long term solution.
I have sent you a private message also.
Darren
im not coping well
im scared of goin to the doctors they never helped me b4
i drove round all night looking at places i cud hang myself... ive given up maybe this is my cry for help.. i dont know if i even have the courage to do it..
all i know is my whole body is aching and i sit and shake crying..
why is this happening to me.. why cant i see the light like you guys why do i feel like such a failure..
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