[Solved] HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER

Hello @CBM, we are here. It looks to me as though things are really tough right now. Just to let you know, I edited the post above for language, but hope you do keep coming here and sharing your story and working to be the best dad circumstance allows. All best, Dad Info

Hello @CBM,

I'm sorry to read that life is really tough for you and your wife right now. I would strongly suggest that you go and see your GP and see if there are any options for you that would help with your anxiety and mental health throughout all this. I realise you may have already gone down the counselling route, but talking with a trained professional can really help you to get what is going around in your mind out, and then your head space is a little less manic. I cannot stress how important it is to look after yourself, physically and mentally. I understand that some days will be harder than others for you, but you and your wife must look out for each other and keep communicating about how you are feeling.

As I have said in my previous post, I realise that you are finding working with social services difficult, but please try not to give up hope. Continue to create memories of yourselves for your son to receive as and when the situation allows. 

Keep talking, keep hoping and keep doing everything as well as you can. One step at a time.

Kind Regards, Fegans Parent Support.

So this is where we are

this will explain the current situation with social services meaning I’ve had to raise a formal complaint 

Dear Social Services and all others member of the child protection conference – I need you all to be fully aware of this situation so it’s clear and familiar to you so that when speaking with me and hearing my frustrations you can appreciate this situation has been built up from 10 years of failed attempts to co-parent with x and her continued parental alienation and emotional abused to our Son A.

I am not satisfied with how this is being handled And now due to the lack of involvement from social services and the family court system even though I have followed the correct channels and court process  granting not only access to my son – but also he is meant to be spending Christmas with me.

Still we are no further on and I’m not getting any answers to the concerns I have been raising now 10 years later still A continues to be manipulated and emotionally abused at the hands of x. – most recent now being the refusal of my Christmas gifts.

So below I will outline the issues we must be address so Let’s start again – and if you wish we can go through this from start to finish in even more details as this continues to be the case that you keep on missing the points of the issues I’ve raised for over 10 years!

I would first like to say I’m happy E is no longer involved in my child’s case – that being said I would like you to look into his inappropriate conduct and general lack of any professional duty to care for the child involved as previously mentioned in my complaint.

1. Why have social services failed to have any impact on the ongoing child arrangements and the serious concerns of x mental health and emotional child abuse which I have been asking for help with dating back as far as 2012?
2. Why has the social services lied when saying they have not read or have any knowledge of the 3 previous section 7 reports? When it was social services – who was the ones who completed these reports?
3. why has E copy and pasted my views from an email he sent me? when  asked me to give you positives on my relationship with A? And further used this as proof he did work with myself and my wife? When in fact E has done nothing no visits no discussions with me? Why do you allow unprofessional conduct from someone who is meant to be acting as a professional?
4. why are you not including the up to date information from the police?
5. Why are you not providing an up to date report to prepare for the meetings?
6. Why are all professionals including the police and mental health professionals made aware of the meetings well in advance and given the opportunity to attend?
7. Why are you not exploring parental alienation and how his mother is forcing her own views onto A? Which is the cause of the emotional abuse A is suffering?
8. why is there not one single mention of this in the report? And why is no one referring to the previous cafcass report that cleary outlines the main issue as affinity alignment?
9. Why is the facts of the history of this situation not being looked into or discussed as there no history of x taking me to court to keep me away or any previous police situations where they have had to be called you have a duty to look at facts presented to you NOT TO ASSUME! Why are you not questioning this situation from the point of the facts being presented to you??
10. why are you not considering a change of residency! x is never going to stop putting barriers in my way all for her own personal vendetta against me! and the mental health she is suffering and A is suffering AND FOR THE VIOLENCE SHE HAS PUT ME AND MY WIFE THROUGH!
11. Why have you not spoken to Cafcass????
12. Why has the new social worker assigned to the case still not read the information that has been sent – court statements – Cafcass section 7 reports – etc?
13. Why has the new social worker failed at the start to make an agreed visit unannounced? And given x pre warning of her visit allowing her to give an excuse she would not be there? Meaning A will now not have Christmas presents that I drove 2 hours to make sure he had in time for Christmas?
14. When is A going to be given the correct emotional support that is needed by a professional who knows and understand the impact of parental alienation? And can work with him to reverse the abuse cause by x
15. Why are you asking me to get legal advice  - when its absolutely not necessary when I am a litigate in person – so I am asking for my own case I want any and all information relating to the social services involvement dating back the last 10 years – including any and all dangerous and violent situation as discussed in the first core group meeting I believe your aware x has exposed A to 6 or 7 different domestic violence incidents. – (NONE OF WHICH RELATE TO ME)
16. Why do I have a court order in place giving me access to my son and this is not being discusses encourage or enforced by you the local authority?
17. WHY AM I STILL BEGGIN FOR SOCIAL SERVICES TO HELP !!!! WHY ????? I’ve raised very serious concerns with you 10 years ago and still you fail my son your conduct as a professional organisation is failing an abused child and you continue to fail a father on his knees begging you to take the appropriate action.

I look forward to a full and proper explanation to why you have failed to have any impact on any and all of the above points – and do not wish to partake in any further core group discussions until these concerns are addressed.

Kind regards,