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Hi CBM,
Anger is I have read your posts and just wanted to add to what Nanny Jane said. Anger is very normal, but whatever happens, think about putting your son first, he is what you are fighting for.
For Contact -
Try the NRS Centre you can self refer to them as well and they provide a wide range of services - www.nrschildcontactcentre.co.uk/
Failing that, if you approach children centres and let them know that you are a father to an under 5 year old and need somewhere to have contact with them, they should help you.
Please let us know how you get on.
Keep your head up!
C
her solicitor has booked a contact center... its costing me 50 quid a hour i cant afford this.. but theres nothing i can do.. what can i do ?
im happy to see my son.. but this feeling of paying for something is not sitting well with me..
My local contact centre charged £50 per 6 months at first, and later £10 per session - I'd look around to see if there are alternatives to the one you have been told to use.
This is so [censored] wrong, you have to apy to fight to see your child, you have to pay to the mum for up keep, you have to pay a contact centre, what has the world come to, my heart goes out to all you Dads and kids who are being deprived.
How long have you got to go to the contact center for ?
heres a update and merry xmas to you all x
so first time i saw little man and she turns up late.. 30 mins late to be precise.. so tahts meant i only got 30 mins with my son...
gave him a new teddy and some clothes...
then on xmas eve my ex turns up at my house at 2am ... i got my flatmate to go to the door... and she staredt going off on one.. saying how can i buy a new car and only buy this for our son.. and that i havent bothered in months to see him.. shes crazy! i cant believe she gave back my boys presents... and why cant i buy a car? i dont get how this women thinks..
heres a new pic of my boy x
Hi how dare she turn up at your house at 2am, if you had done that to her you would have been arrested and why was she late at the contact centre. Are you going back to court ? you need to write to the court and give them a
update on her behaviour. Get a non molestion order on her . You have every right to have a car and a life . shes well crazy. Sorry couldnt see the photo
here is the letter i sent to the court.
Principal Registry of the Family Division
First Avenue House
42-49 High Holborn
London
WC1V 6NP
Case
02/1/2013
To whom it may concern
I am writing to the court today to inform you that my partner is not sticking to the contact order as requested by the court and i would like to have an emergency hearing to resolve this matter.
Contact was granted for every 2 weeks and the first contact was on wednesday 19th December 2012 at 3-4pm.
My ex partner arrived 30 minutes late giving me only 30 minutes with my son.
and also stated that the next contact would not be until 9th of january, this is longer than the 2 weeks period granted by the court.
I would also like to add that my ex partner attended my home address at 2am in the morning to give me back my childs christmas present and to prevent conflict with her as the court has stated i am not to speak with her my flatmate answered the door and was confronted by her abuse, a full statement from my flatmate will be issued to the court in due course.
I would also like to apply to the court that she does not attend my premises to harass me further.
Your sincerely
Hi good for you, keep them updated. I think i would call the police the next time she does this. Be strong and well done ..
hi i got a new court date for the 16th january!
really would like someone to come to court represent me... dont think i shud be doing this on my own anymore.... it went very bad the last time..
just received a call from my sons grandmother, i did not pick up the call, she then text to say my son is ill and will not be able to attend for the contact center visit tomorrow, and that he has been ill since xmas eve.
i replied with
thanks for only just letting me know, i will have to let the court know, and i hope my son is ok.
she then rang back and i did not pick up
why have they waited till now to tell me?
will this do anything for me at court?
someone advise... do i speak with the grandmother... the court has said legally i cannot speak with them... and its not long until the court hearing...
Hi CBM,
Has the court instructed you not to talk to your ex or your ex & the grandmother?
I know it's hard but try to be civil in any communications with your ex or her mum. I understand that it must be frustrating not being able to see your son, but if he is ill as he is still very young then it maybe in his best interest this time. I agree that such short notice is annoying - you need to keep a record of everything that happens ( phone calls, missed contact etc.)
Gooner
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