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Hi CBM,
It would seem your playing the game a little :whistle: :whistle:
It seems to have worked though and you have handled it well, like you say she won't be able to say you didn't turn up at all and you have the police record to show you reported it, I guess you will also have the txt to say she went against it.
Darren
yes i have a voicemail from her, but need to get a court date pushed forward
THIS IS WHAT IM FIGHTING FOR INCASE ANYONE WANTED TO SEE MY LITTLE MAN X
aw so cute.
COURT TOMORROW!!!!! LETS SEE HOW THIS GOES!!!!!
Good luck CBM! 🙂
Your boy is beautiful....I can feel the love!
CBM - I wish you all the luck in the world.
Really hoping for some more good news.
bad news im afraid....
i now have a restraining order against me as she reported me to the police saying i have threatened to shoot her...
she has been spying on my watsapp profile and after the day when she refused me access at her mothers house i change my status saying.. you f**king b***h.. i asked for 1 hour in 4 mnths and you cudnt give me that.. also put a small icon of a girls head with a gun pointed at it.. she showed this in court and made me sign a agreement to not go near her call her harrass her or anything... as stupid as wot i did was it was not meant to actually be a threat to shoot her.. it was not sent to her or anything...
now its war.. i reported her for benefit fraud as shes rentin her spare room which is actually my sons bedroom to a frend of hers and shes also moved in her new bf...
im also concerned now if she loses her benefits can csa force me to pay more than my agreed csa amount?
i also got granted access but i need to arrange this threw her solicitor and joy of joys i have to pay for the contact center...
does this ever stop for fathers who just want to be a good dad? why am i sisttin here thinking of ways to get back at her for making me loose the most valuble memories ill ever have?
really mixed up.. really fed up.. its like theres no upside.. its just a women with a evil plan trying to make my life worse..
i know reporting her for benifit fraud will affect my son... its also wrong she is defrauding the likes of the good decent people in this world who pay tax why shud she be rewarded..
i want my son to live with me..
i know some of u might be angry at me for reporting her.. but its done.. she deserves wots coming to her now..
Hi CBM,
i also got granted access
The most important part of your last post. This is great news - all the rest is just stuff thats happened - get over it, move on.........
i also got granted access
Lets focus on the upside of the what happened in court.
Gooner
CBM...I dont think anyone will be angry with you....we are all pushed to our limit sometimes and do things we might regret later... Anger and bitterness are human emotions and you, like the rest of us, are only human!
If you are faced with this kind of thing in the future though, it might be a good idea to step back and wait for feelings to calm down before acting on it...Because as you acknowledge, it will most likely affect your son.
I am facing the same dilemma and the only thing stopping me now and in the past, is the fact that it will affect the child in the middle of it all.
Good luck CBM 🙂
ok so i now need some help in finding a contact center and wud like some advice if i can fight the fact i have to pay for it..
Google should help with finding a local contact centre, otherwise try children's services.
I don't blame you for reporting her for benefit fraud - she's happy to use the law against you, she should be prepared to abide by those same laws.
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