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Actd is right, loosing someone you love through end of relationship is very similar to loosing them through death if not harder as they are still there if that makes sense.
This will all take time (and it's toll) but the very end result will be ok. I will be stronger and more experienced in life.
This seems a long way off at the moment I know and as said before there are no short cuts so just ride it out and continue with the support sessions you have been having.
ok heres the latest update..
ive seen my son yesterday she called and said we have to do it threwcontact center... i went down personally to meet with a social worker and explained my side of things they are going to cal her today and put my request for once a week supervised visits.
she hastext me and said i will only seehimevery twoweeks... im not happy about this and on monday i will be sendingoff thecourt papers.
ifshewants a war then shes got one.
It seems you have made some great progress over the past few weeks.
Bet it was great to see Alex.
I would accept the once every 2 weeks for now and show her you are being reasonable and that you are prepared to take things at a slow pace to get where you want to be, you have made such great in roads it would be a shame to set it back again.
Darren
i replied to her and said its not ideal.. and how would she like it to only see her son twice a month.. shes just said wuite harshly thats when your seeing him like it or lump it..
darren.. im not coping well.. i still feel so in love with her.. how i cud ever find love like that again.. and beating myself up for what i put her threw is killing me,,,
i wud like to sy im strong.. and if i was to give anyone advice dont do wot i did stand by your women from the beginning dont ever let her think your not fully supporting her cos there is no way back once you do what ive done... i killed somthing magical...
still not heard from social worker as to when i can see my son.
and i have sent off my court papers, really would like someone to help me through this process.
really not feeling any better
really fed up with life... someone tell me how this is gonna get easier... i still miss her so much an di know when she gets the court letter shes going to go mental!
but i do feel its all i can do...
on the plus side ive found somwhere to live i move in on monday a nice 3 bed house sharing with some frends... shud be a nice base to sort myself out
OK GREAT NEWS!!!!!!!!!
FINALLY I GOT A COURT DATE!!!!!!!!!!!
really need some advice on what to expect and what to do in the court. any help will be needed as im representing myself.
Great news CBM.
Check out http://www.dad.info/dad-talk-forum/legal-eagle/10255-guide-to-representing-yourself-in-court which is a great guide to how to represent yourself in court and what you can expect.
You sound much better in yourself - well done, you are doing so well.
i know this is hard to understand but if you have nothing,,, the state cant take anything away from you.... legal aid or if you feel the need to pay for your god given right 2 justice (not that there is a god but that's another story) do a search there are many out there that know the law... but u can do it for free
You sound much better in yourself - well done, you are doing so well.
I agree with Gooner. You sound like you're doing much better!
court is on the 12th nov... im scarred.. im reppin myself.. wud love for someone to represent me
i tried gettin a mackenzie frend but they charging 300 pounds... id rather spend that money on my boy.. and dont have it spare.. wot else do i do but rep myself...
has anyone done this before ~?
having no luck finding some who will do it for free...
You could try asking the Citizens Advice Bureau...some have a list of volunteer McKenzie friends. Otherwise, have you talked to the court help desk they may be able to help....Its a bit late in the day though and you may have left it too late.
There is also something called the PSU which is the Personal Support Unit, which is a charity to help those going to court without representation. They are made up of traineee barristers that have a good knowledge of the court process....again it might be too late to get them on board and they are only based in London and Manchester. I have provided links to both below.
London ~ www.thepsu.co.uk
Manchester ~ www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk/HMCSCourtFinder/Search.do?court_id=750
Good luck with everything 🙂
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