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Hi Guys,
Just wondered if you have seen Marc's blog today? If you haven't check it out.
I would be really interested to hear your thoughts regarding Marc's views about Aftab Khan. Do you think he's right or does your view differ?
Looking forward to reading your views.
Thanks
Gooner
...it's a very emotive subject Gooner. Part of me agrees with Marc, but part of me knows its not always as black and white...
It's too easy to say if a father wanted, really wanted to see his child, that he would find a way but we all know that it's not always the case. There are some Dads out there that have been denied their children for no good reason....the judges have such power behind the closed doors of the family.
I think the problem people have with Aftab Khan is because he has capitalised on his sons tragic death by selling his story. The family sounds dysfunctional and where alcoholism is involved there follows a trail of destruction... I don't feel comfortable condemning the man but I don't feel any overwhelming sympathy for him either. My focus is on that poor child and the thousands like him that are left to live in families where neglect is the norm. There will be more tragedies and more little innocents will die at the hand of their parents, of that I am in no doubt.
I don't think the father was ever considering the best interests of his son, I think any attempt to get back to the house would have been to cause further abuse. I think it's one of those sad cases where there were a lot of failings in hindsight, but to change the system to prevent it from happening would cause untold misery for lots the massive majority of cases where there is no problem. I think what makes this case more emotive is the fact that it was 2 years before the body was discovered, and the fact that other family members were too afraid to say anything. That makes me very sad.
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