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Facebook has had a lot of press, be it good or bad. What do you think of social networks - are they a necessary evil or can they actually be helpful in reaching out to long lost loved ones ?
One such story is the story of Andy who found his estranged father after 37 years.
I know what you are all thinking but this really can happen, from personal knowledge I know of friends who have been reunited with family they have not had contact with for years.
Never give up hope !
What do you think ?
Mags
I use Facebook quite often,i've not tracked down any long lost family or anything(although I have tried) but i've got in touch with quite a few old friends,I moved away from my home town and don't get back much so it's handy to keep in touch.
There was a recent story in Australia though about how some people use it to spy on others,that's a bit crazy.
I am in two minds about Facebook. I agree that for keeping in touch with relatives say in Australia it is a good thing but I think youngsters, especially teens can become addicted and spend more time on the site than is healthy or necessary. Nothing can replace face-to-face contact time with friends and without facial expressions or body language to go by, comments can often be taken the wrong way in print.
I still can't really see the point in facebook. A few people I've known in the past have contacted me by facebook, but beyond the first couple of pleasantries, not much has been said since, and I really don't want to know what they are doing every minute of the day, be poked by anyone, join a group for people who only like the colour red or any other such daft things that go on.
If friends are worth keeping in touch with, I'll do it by email, or heaven forbid, ring or visit them (and I have been known to pop up on someone's doorstep after a few years if I'm passing just to say hello). That's not to say that there's anything wrong with people I've lost touch with, - it's just that we followed different paths and didn't feel the need to keep in touch.
I have with the help of other network sites aswel as "Facy"found mates from the army when we joined up 30 years ago last September.
Not all good though, try keeping in touch with daughter number 2, and its a whole different story, not only does she not want you to see her mates and her profile pics, but as she spends such a long time on there in the first place, she never has the time to leave you a short message saying "yes dad i am ok", i mean that would be all it took wouldnt it guys ?.
With daughter number 1, who lives with me, there are privacy issues everytime i walk in the room, 😕 shock: ,(i am acually worried about cyber bullying and as such would rather we didnt have the whole networking site thing in the first place.
Not only does it breed secrecy in the house and a sense of who is spying in whome, when a picture turns up of my daughter being pushed into a busy road and she is half lying there,her so called friend having obviously taken the snap and put it on the "facy web" with comments,imagine my shock when the cyber bully actually turns up in the local paper for similar offences.
On the whole internet community sites can be a link to distant friends and relatives but the bullying has to stop.
I don't think it's too bad if it's used for the purpose it was built for.
Unfortunatly it gets bad press for the fact you have peadophiles luring the underage in to their world.
I use it to keep unto date with friends. I too don't live in my home town anymore so it's good to keeping touch with high school friends and old work colleagues etc.
Now Twitter I don't get!!!
yep i dont do twittering, or myspace,or any of the other miriad net work spaces just pooped up to take away the valuable time we are suppose to spend with our kids, what did we do before comuters ??
I don't think it's too bad if it's used for the purpose it was built for.
Unfortunatly it gets bad press for the fact you have peadophiles luring the underage in to their world.
I use it to keep unto date with friends. I too don't live in my home town anymore so it's good to keeping touch with high school friends and old work colleagues etc.
Now Twitter I don't get!!!
Facebook does have a place - I "found" my best man who I hadn't seen for over 15 years and it is a great way to stay in touch and see what people are upto.
My 13 year old is on it as are all of his friends but we can see his wall and have set him rules like no pictures of himself on his profile.
It is like anything if he is aware of the danger he will abide by our rules, if he abuses them he will be banned for a period of time.
Facebook can be good for keeping in touch with friends but be very very carefull on how you reply as only part of conversations are seen and can be taken out of context.
it can also be a very usefull tool if you know your partners be it ex or present password as it will open up a can of worms but once open it will drive you mad be VERY VERY CAREFULL!!!!!!!
it can also be a very usefull tool if you know your partners be it ex or present password as it will open up a can of worms but once open it will drive you mad be VERY VERY CAREFULL!!!!!!!
Be very careful - if you are opening anyone elses FB, mail or anything is against the law AFAIK unless you have their permission. I'm not sure if FB has a 'last accessed' date, but I assume it would also show 'her' as online and you could get caught out by her friends.
I love the fact that it exposes stupid people at work...
Recently had someone who phoned in sick then changed their facebook status to "Having a great time at Alton Towers!"
Looking forward to the disciplinary!!!
I really, really like the idea - I'm quite a socialble person, but it scares the pants off me because the time vanishes when you look at it!
P.S. I LIKE the the alton towers thing 😈
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