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my ex wife is moving in with her boyfriend and taking my children 11 and 15yrs with her. what i'd like to know is, do i still pay her mainenance even though she is substancially better off than me? ( its a 5 bed 4 bath brand new house). Any help would be much appreciated.
Hi
Yes, you do continue with maintenance - her income (or that of her boyfriend) is completely irrelevant, it is calculated solely on your income plus any factors that may reduce this (travel expenses to have contact, number of nights they sleep with you etc.)
Whilst it sounds unfair - you will have a responsibility to pay for your children regardless of what your ex's income is.
One thing I have found out is that the CSA don't seem to care how much money she has, she could be well off and you could be like my self living of minimum as long as you are bringing in a wage they will hunt you for it, I had a problem with the CSA they said that I owed them a lot of money, because I had payed her from my bank to hers as advised by the CSA, to do it amicable and so I could prove that i had payed her and when it came down to it even with the evidence i had they would only wipe the debt is she had agreed that she had it even though I had proof and did everything that they told me to do, as you can guess i don't trust the CSA lol.
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