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Hi,
So, some of you may remember me. I posed a while ago when my ex stopped me from seeing my boy because i had met someone.
Anyhow, as you may be aware that was all sorted out, the invitation to mediation i sent her snapped her out of that behavior.
After that everything was good, great in fact. I was seeing him on a regular basis and she had slowed down on the constant complaining.
As these thing go, i suppose, this has not lasted. I have not seen him since 07/11/13. I miss him, it hurts to talk about it so i type to you guys instead. so far, i have been given no reason for this. I do not get responses from her, either by text or email. The last response i got was about the CSA i pay her - made me so angry, how dare she respond to me about money but not about when i was next seeing Blake.
In January i went to see my solicitor for some advice, she said that an application to court is the way to go. So i have filled in my C100 form, sent it to court, got her served with the papers in person and my god i wish i was there to see her face, got my first hearing date on 03/03/14 - pretty quick i have to say (well i think it is anyway)
My question is pretty simple, What should i expect at this first hearing? I doubt she will turn up and the Cafcas officer a spoke to (who has run the background checks) mentioned that she could not get hold of my ex. (refusing the answer the phone) If she does turn up, what will happen? i assume this wont be a shout match, but more of a negotiation. Should she not turn up, i will be going back to solicitor, but what has happened with you guys?
Thanks for reading,
Feel like a BT advert - but "It's Good to Talk"
Cheers,
Vaz
Hi Vaz
I think it's better not to worry about what ifs, if she doesn't turn up not much will happen...I would imagine a new date will be scheduled, and she will be warned not to ignore it otherwise decisions may be made in her absence.
If she turns then CAFCASS will want to talk to her and possible try and get you both together in the hope of some agreement. If this fails then any other reports that are needed will be ordered and statements from both parties asked for.
Try and ask the judge to make an interim contact order and impress upon them that you have had regular contact and have a close bond with your son.
Good luck.
Definitely go for the interim contact order and if you produce that message about the CSA amount, I am pretty confident that you will get it. I would even ask if you can get a final order there and then if she doesn't turn up - though others with more recent experience may give reasons if this can't happen. - after all, she is stopping contact for money and not bothering to turn up to give any other argument, so why would a judge want to waste further court time.
Hi,
So thought it would be worth posting an update.
The hearing was yesterday, my ex actually turned up. I was very surprised to say the least. It basically ended with supervised visits, 2 hours every Sunday.
Its a bit of a kick in the gut as i have done nothing wrong, however it is better then nothing so i am content with the result.
in four to five weeks the case will be re-visited and progression on a actual visitation scheduled will be made.
Vaz
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