[Solved] time with my son

Your request doesnt sound unreasonable to m3. You should have PR already as it is automatic if the child is born after 2003 (December I think).

Are you on the BC?

If you have concerns about her partner have you raised these with social services?

Regards,

Dave

Thanks Dave, im not on the BC as my ex refused to do this even though she promised she would, i did raise my concerns with social services before my son was even born but i never heard anything or know if they even looked into it. Things took a nose dive last night now when she came to pick my boy up from me, she informed me that access was stopping and she was going to a solicitor and doing it through court, i understand that you have to attend mediation before any court stuff, we have already been there and she refused to go back i have the form from them to show i attended but she didnt so i dont know how this is going to work now, do you have any idea? i want to try and get the contact order forms and parental responsibility forms in before that. she has timed this just right as she knows im not working right now so i cant afford to pay these costs or for a solicitor and i think its disgusting that the government has stopped funding to help people...

Hey Mick

Don't panic, get the forms ready to go. You will need the mediators to sign the form for you. If you're not working you will be exempt from court fees anyway. You don't need a solicitor, there's plenty of information to be had on here. Give Coram Children's Legal Centre a call, they have a helpline for free Legal Advice.

What area do you live in? (pm if you don't want to post that on a thread) You could go to the CAB or Families Need Fathers have branch meetings where you can meet other parents and get advice.

I agree it's dreadful that Legal Aid was removed but it's really not that difficult to do it alone. My partner would have qualified for Legal Aid but started the process too late and missed out. He used a McKenzie Friend, they can support you through the process and attend court with you for guidance, moral support and to take notes. They're not regulated so if you choose that route get one that's recommended. Families Need Fathers hold details of voluntary McKenzie's as well. If you call the Legal Aid helpline, they hold information on Law Centres where you might be able to get help from a trainee solicitor.

Post any questions you have and I'm sure someone will answer 🙂

Hi 1626,

I have the form from the mediator already signed so im guessing all i need to do now is fill in the forms and hand them into the court and wait? im from kent and ive looked at that families need fathers site and they dont have any meetings anywhere near me, CAB are useless as i went to them the other day and they said they couldnt help me as my ex was their "client" i thought they was supposed to give advice to anyone not pick and choose? I will look into all the other people you have suggested, thank you for all your advice and info, its nice to know that some people are willing to help others without an agenda or wanting something in return.

Mick.

That's correct. You send 3 copies of all the forms to the court nearest to where your child lives. It usually takes up to 10 days to get a response and the first hearing is usually 6-8 weeks from there.

I wasn't aware the CAB could do that, thought they were impartial.

No worries. We were in the same boat as you 18 months ago and the help I have received for my partner was fantastic, it's nice to be able to do it for others to say thank you.

I'm on Kent borders, there are def 2 FNF branch meetings in Kent as we contacted them. WIll have a look on the website and see if their info is up to date and send you a pm.