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I am looking after my two daughters ages 12 and 14 respectively.
I am 65 years old so about 50 years between us in ages. My former partner - aged about 40 - is living with someone else. She (they?) pay the mortgage which is quite high. She (they?) also pay off a large loan.
Life is still very tough though. I get a pension and now get State pension plus child tax credits and child benefit. It seems like an awful lot of money compared to what I got in my first graduate job - about £1,200 per YEAR back in 1972!
I am looking for any other grown up and ageing, male "baby boomer" type left in a similar position to this. It might well make me / us feel even worse I guess discussing.
I have Social services reviews coming up in the next few days. At first Social Workers were tremendously unhelpful and unprofessional - and probably overworked, ground down and underpaid. They are better now as my two daughters have repeatedly told them they want to live with me.
Their mother works and lives with someone who is quite wealthy, according to her. It is a bit of a role reversal with my ex partner as a woman having the cash / access to cash while I, the father need to depend on her and her new partner for cash - and abuse too, I can depend on them both for plenty of that.
The children said they do not want to see their mother ever again after she first left (over 2 years ago) but eventually Court ordered that they must see her. They still refused.
I am in an emotional mess. And a financial mess. I will not go into a lot more detail as my identity might be revealed.
Hi there
Welcome to the forum, I do hope we can give you some advice and support.
You are doing a great job, taking care of your two girls... It must be so hard at times.
You mention what money you have coming in and yet you don't mention child maintenance, it's something you are entitled to and if you aren't currently claiming it might be a good idea to open a case.
I'm ageing, but no baby boomer! Lol ...
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