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so my ex partner and i have 3 children, our oldest is not biologically mine but has never seen his real dad and has always known me as his dad and i have always treated him as so. (He lives with his grandad), our second child is our first child together( He lives with me). our third child is obviously our second child together (he lives with the ex partner). my ex partner has a child worker working to "make sure the child's best interest is first. basically i do not feel my youngest son is not getting what is in his best interest. the ex partner has never paid her electricity, gas or water bill in the 11 months she has lived at her address and i believe this is not providing the basics for our child. i have contacted social services and the child support worker who know that she hasn't been paying and they are not interested what i think, i even have proof that she thinks that not paying her basic bills has nothing to do with what is best for our child.
there is alot of other things that have happened between us.
Should i apply and for residency and do you think the courts will see this as a disregard for our child's best interest
Hi there
There generally has to be serious safeguarding concerns for a transferral of residence to take place. The fact that she doesn't pay her bills wouldn't be seen as a direct risk to the child IMO, unless the electric and gas were turned off, in which case this would put the child at risk.
I would advise you to keep a record of all the things that happen and if you feel there are risks then report it to the case worker. If things don't change then I think you can ask for a case review.
Good luck
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