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Hi, my son has to appear in court on Monday to contest a non molestation order. He does not want contact with his ex but just wants to see his daughter. the ex has stated various lies about him being aggressive etc. The court does not seem to have asked for any evidence from his ex, do you think she will have to produce some evidence or is threat alone enough of a leg to stand on? He is going to see a solictior on Wednesday, does anyone have any advice or tips for him?
He is really upset and worried that this will affect any contact with his daughter, who is 4 weeks old today and he's seen her for 10 mins when she was 2 days old.
Any advice would be very much appreciated.
Thank you
Hi there
I've always found it frustrating that non mols and harassment orders are dished out so willingly! As he is contesting it he should be given the opportunity to have his say and if she can't provide any evidence to back up her claims then it could be overturned...sometimes the court will ask for an undertaking which can be accepted with an acknowledgement that the allegations are wholly disputed.
It shouldn't have any long term effects on his quest for contact, this will be a long slow process as there has been no proper contact yet and due to her age contact will be progressed very slowly...but I'm sure if he sticks at it he will get there and once his daughter becomes more independent of her mother contact will increase.
To have patience is the best advice. I can give and not to get into any personal [censored] for tat with the mother...in family cases it's always best to rise above it and be the bigger person, remain completely child focused and show thoughtfulness for what is best for the child.
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