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I can't do this anymore.
I can't take anymore.
He's outside my house constantly, he's secretly textin and ringing the kids arranging to meet them at the local shop.
He encouraging them to move to his.
He constantly on at me if I contact the eldest, he had a go at me today for encouraging him at school, he said I shouldn't because I'll get his hopes up.
I don't know what to do. My kids are my life, I'm seeing one child's life e destroyed before my eyes and I can't do anything about it, I can let it happen to the other two as well.
What can I do?
Sorry for the typos!
Hi Crocs,
Really sorry it looks like we all managed to miss this post.
This is really difficult, I would say talk to the police about him hanging around outside and trying to get the children too meet him, they could look at placing a restraining order on him, so that you could report whenever he is there, but I fear this would make your life even more difficult, but you have too do something as it seems like he is ruling your life.
Are your other children happy living with you?
GTTS
I've got to agree with GTTS, I would have a word with the police and your SW...although I know you don't think much of them, at least it would be on file.
Have you thought of calling the Family Rights Group.... They deal with children and parents that are under local authority care and may be able to help you. They have a freephone number, it might help to give them a call Crocs.
www.frg.org.uk/
Like GTTS sorry for the delay in responding.
Sent you a PM
Hey Crocs,
sending hugs to you, you've done so well for so long. You need some extra support.
In addition to the link NJ sent, you could always try speaking with NYAS as well to see if they can offer some independent support to the children.
Wasn't your eldest bullying one of your younger children? Why do they want to go through that again if they don't have to?
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