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Hi im new to this website and could do with some advice/help
since February last year ive been going through a rough patch, my ex partner has stopped me completely from having any contact with my daughter by gaining a non molestational order against me back in September 2014, the day after the order was set on me she stitched up by phoning the police and telling them i had been to her address and wrote bad move [censored] on the back of her car in the dirt, at the scene the police found my OLD COUNTERPART DRIVING LICENCE i had asked the police to collect a few items of mine from her back in February 2014 my counterpart driving licence being one of them, yeah so she seriously stitched me up, the police arrested me for breaching my non molestational order charged me even though i gave them enough evidence to prove she had stitched me up like the dates i ordered my new counter part and the dates i went to the police station asking them to collect my belongings, at the end of this stressful time i was found not guilty and she walked away knowing she would try again, on the 12th January 2015 she did the same again accept she said she had a friend with her this time as a witness, she said i was blocking the road and after a while drove towards with my lights on main beam still blocking her i put my window down and tried speaking to her then i made a slit your throat sign and said your dead she apparently didnt hear this but lip read it, i was dropping a friend off after going to the local pubic house for a chat after dropping him off my friend stayed in the back of the car and my other friend got out and went home i turned around and arrived at the junction just as i did my ex pulls in to the same street but drives straight past i drove away from the junction and pulled up 700 yards down the round and phone my friend who confirmed it was her outside his house, a few days later the police arrive at my house for me ONCE AGAIN so me and my new partner arrive there to speak to them they tell me they are going to arrest me i told them that i want them to listen to me first and let me have my say as i did i broke down into tears because of the stress she is causing me the police didnt arrest me as the saw i was far to upset, im still waiting to hear back from the police about what they are going todo and i have court on the 5th of march to try and remove this PATHETIC NON MOLESTATION ORDER, i really would appreciate some help/advice on what to do even someone that i dont know to just listen to me, since all this i have been put on the sick.
thankyou for taking your time to read this.
Hi there
This is such a travesty of justice, it's little wonder that you are off work with the stress of it all.
I wish I could offer some constructive advice, but often with no mol orders it's very difficult to disprove allegations....even when they can be disproven the courts will err on the side of caution and grant an undertaking.
Hopefully the police will see through her and you can use the fact that you were found not guilty last time and she has made yet further allegations. Can you get the friends that were with you that night to write witness statements? It might help in court.
Sometimes it helps just to talk about it, best of luck for the 5th.
Hi
Thank you for taking the time to reply to me I truly appreciate it.
Both of my friends made witness statements and also told the officer what she was like, I feel she will do anything to prevent me from seeing my daughter as she has already proven this.
It sickens me daily how anyone could treat a human like this and the police can't do a single thing to help me, I live a life like a prisoner to protect my own freedom and have gone to huge levels to protect myself by buying cctv for my car and downloading a tracker on my phone to show my location daily, it's horrible i feel she has a condition called OCD obsessive compulsive disorder she is obsessed with me not being big headed but I and lots of other people agree she is, what I feel shes trying to say is if you don't be with me you can't see your daughter but she needs to understand that I don't want her but I want my daughter in my life, I really can't wait till all of this is over and I can focus on my life.
Maybe one day I'll look back and think about how much me and my loved ones have been through, I don't know what I would of done without my new partner supporting me day in day out.
Thank you once again for your comments.
just a update
had a phone call this morning off the police to let me know there is going to be no further action,
so happy this morning roll on the 5th.
That is a huge relief to you , I'm sure 🙂
Massive relief is an understatement it felt like someone had just lifted a weight off my back, court didn't go as well as I liked my ex partner didn't turn up AGAIN, now it's going to a final hearing where she will be cross examined about the allegations she has entered into the non moleatational order also all the police records from the houses we have lived in will be brought in as well as her doctors notes, never was the police ever called about my aparant violence towards her nor was there any visits to the doctors, what she is doing is making my life a mess which isn't fare at all I live in fear for what's around the corner, I have had to buy cctv for my car and a tracker for my mobile phone to protect myself.
Thank you
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